Hi

I met this girl a fortnight back at a party – we got along great. Had awesome and meaningful conversations – the one where it gets the other person thinking not on a casual level but more personal. She also said that I have a nice smile

(Actually I met her on the bus a few weeks back but we did not talk, I met this other guy first at the party and later I found out him and her and some other girls were all housemates).

Anyways the day after I texted her saying it was awesome meeting you guys and that we should all catch up again. She replied about 2hrs later saying “hey marco how are you this morning? I thought you were a very interesting person and it was nice meeting you last night and we shud all hang out sometime”

So I replied after 1.5 hours saying “thanks for the compliment!”.

So I text her on Wednesday saying that we should all meet up for lunch on the weekend, I did not get her reply until today, basically 2 days passed and she decided to get back to me.

Her response basically was “hey marco how are you? I would love for us all to catch up but im going out with family this weekend. What about next week? What’s been happening and hows life?”

My mate said that since she made me wait I should do the same, so I figured I’ll just get back to her after a few days.

So I texted her this Monday (I took my time - 3 days to get back to her) along the lines of:
"Hey there nnnnnn! This weekend sounds great. I was thinking perhaps this Sunday at 12:07 for lunch. How does that sound? Also hope you had fun at the family event! xD

It's been 3 days now and no reply yet. I was thinking of just calling her tomorrow and asking her if the lunch with herself and the 'group' is still on?

Did I do something wrong here? I made the texts as uplifting and fun as I could think of.



Thanks for your help!

you need to work on your text game. She will not answer for sure if you call her right now.

You keep hitting her up to ask her out right now, that is acting way to needy. Hit her up, just to talk to her. Good time to do it is when your bored. When your doing something stupid like watching tv, just hit her up to kill time. I always hit girls up when I am bored at work. Funny thing is, they know I bored and just hitting em up to kill time.

Right now, she is gonna say no if you ask her out. Look her at response time. If she replies quickly, then is a good time to set up something.

Was it something I put down in the text? Lol.

I did not reply back sooner on purpose. Also I only sent 2 text messages thus far in a 1.5 week period, no more.

Also I only asked about this Sunday because she said last week that next weekend should be alright (which is the coming weekend). I don't think that's being needy.

You need to be more assertive, also, is this a conversation with a girl or with your mum, you need to introduce some playful banter, don't ask her if thats okay, tell her its okay

"it was nice meeting you last night and we shud all hang out sometime”

She's not interested in you yet. I tell female friends to suggest a group hangout whenever they aren't sexually interested in a guy.

I would suggest you read up on text game here and try to convert a group activity to you two going out after "spontaneously." (Most women love the word and idea...but what it really means is to plan something far in advance and make it seem off the top of your head).

Good luck mate.

hey man, I think you play right but u need to stop giving her some option. you should impose her a date. i was in the same situation few weeks ago. i think you should make her think that u r too busy now to do anything, but u will get back to her for a good time to meet each other. Wut she want u to run being her. dt play her game instead impose yours.

LoL my gap between her text and my response was 3 days, she hasn't responded in 5 days now And I won't respond back perhaps until mid of next week something along the lines of... "I don't know if my phone is broken or not since some people did not recive my text - let's see if this works " Lol.

Anyways tomorrow was the day that I suggested to her and for her housemates to catch up but I guess I'll just meet up with another friend instead.

Also please keep in mind I want to be friends first before I suggest anything else such as a date (less awkward for me once I know the person and she knows me) but for that to happen we do have to catch up right?? Also the reason why it would be nice to have her housemates there as well is because I met her house mates only once at the same party and they seemed pretty cool - would be nice to get to know them as well considering I am somewhat new to this city I moved to!!

I don't think you answered correctly when she sent her first text. I've not read text game, but I feel like I have a great game in that regard, because I always garner laughs, or at the least 'HAHAHA or LOOOOL's whenever I reply to a text. Instead of thanking her for the compliment, you should have said something along the lines of;

'Well, thank you, but I'm not THAT certain about you as you seem of me, hehe. I don't know, maybe, you can win me over with time, but I won't be holding my breath"

Add a couple of lol's and haha's in there, to ensure that you are not entirely serious about what you've said. I don't know, but I think that would have been a more provoking comment, than your rather dull 'thanks'. Never send a close ended text. By saying thanks, you ensured that particular thread was dead.

Also, I'm not too happy with your initial text. One I used most recently with a girl was 'So what trouble are you causing today? Oh, and it's that guy you couldn't take your hands off on the bus home yesterday.'

It's funny, playful, and does not require her to agree to anything like a date.