I hate saying those words, I don't think anybody likes admitting it.

My situation is that there is this girl, I'd say she's my friend but its not a LJBF situation.
I want to kiss her, but the fact is that I'm scared, Its probably an irrational fear, because she doesn't pull away when i touch her or am close. She laughs a lot around me, and will stand close, or touch me when talking.

I see that the signs are there, but I'm still scared, "what if she pulls away", "what if i mess everything up", these thought go through my head.

So I admit it, I'm scared, I'm inexperienced. So I ask you this, how do i get over the fear, how do I know when is the right time to kiss. And what do I do if it does fail, even though in my head i can say I don't think it will, but I am scared that it could.

Thanks for all the help.

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This is what I can give you that has worked for me many times.
Take a girl to a spot that will set the mood for you, like a place where you have a view over the whole city, or something else romantic, maybe a sunset.
Rap your arms around her and just sit there for a while and talk, if she is comfortable with it, you can go for the kiss. Just look at her until she looks at you, dont go for the kiss emediatly wait a little bit more if she keeps the eye contact you go for the kiss! Wait about 2-3 seconds then you go. If you want to make it more dramatic, you can put your hand on her chin and help her meet your lips on the way. I say you stop listening to yourself and start taking action, stop thinking and just do it. And if you dont do it, you might loose your chance too.. girls wont wait for you forever.

GOOD LUCK MAN!

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There are 2 kinds of people when you boil it all down, you got your talkers and you got your doers.
Most people are just talkers, all they got is talk, but when all said is done it's the doers who change this world.

Ok dude....I'm trying to think of something more than 'go for it' because you are lookin for more than that.

These are ideas I have kept with me as it regards to kissing girls:

There is no perfect moment, but you can read the signs, look at her face, triangle gaze, etc.

View it all as practice!

If I don't try, I've failed.

What's the worst that can happen? She pulls away? She turns her head? You must become friends with these scenarios.

The times the kiss failed on me - 100% of the time I realized I had not created enough comfort or attraction. I get the sense that you are already well on your way with this girl.

quit asking when the perfect moment is,

and instead, create the perfect moment.

fuck romance.

employ game.

escalate.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Thanks for the replies guys. Yeah I agree, if I don't try, I have failed, thats why i need to motivate myself to move past the fear and just do it. I guess you're right about there being no perfect time, I guess next time I'm alone with her and I can create the SPAM I should just go for it. One more thing though.
When I go to kiss her should i say anything, or just move in for it? I feel like I shouldn't really say anything, I shouldn't need a reason for wanting to kiss a girl, and I can't see why she would be angry about it. (surprised maybe) Or should I say something like "i want to kiss you" or something along those lines?

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Search for these two things
Triangulation
and the kissing game
two really good ways to get a kiss in the works, but almost no risk to you

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To game at your best you have to be willing to do your worst.

10 to 1 says he p***y's out --Like a Boss!

but seriously just get it done nothing to lose

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lol wow thanks for the support

you are right though, I just need to do it, I know if I don't I'll feel much worse than any possible consequence that could come from making a move. I do feel like i could have something to lose though, as she is my friend, but in my experience something like this won't ruin a friendship even if it doesn't work out.

Also, what is the kissing game?

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