I know I'm totally suffering of oneitis, but here goes:

There's this girl who I've been friends with for years, and we did actually have a relationship about a year ago. I was very much an AFC back then, and well, I still are, but I do have more knowledge and a healthier self-esteem now. Our split up was a bit complicated, but the problems' sources were my tendency to get jealous and that I was too shy to actually talk with her about things that I found problematic in our relationship. After we split up I decided that I need to fix those two problems before I start a new "serious" relationship.

Nowadays we're friends again and talk to each other a lot, mostly through internet since she lives in another city. A few weeks ago I noticed I had started to get romantic feelings towards her, and last week I asked her if she'd like to try a relationship with me again. She was surprised and I told her she doesn't have to decide immediately (was this a mistake?). A few days later I asked her if she'd thought about it and she said she likes me, but is unsure if she wants a relationship with me due to the problems we had last time. I told her I had changed a lot after we broke up (mistake?), but I'm not sure if the believed me. She didn't say anything and I didn't know what to say, so again I told her that I'll let her think about it some more (...mistake?). My possible mistakes probably weren't fatal, though, since she still talks to me a lot. I've also noticed that when we're in a bigger group of friends, she talks more to me than to the others.

What should I do? What mistakes have I done? I have no idea how to continue with this.

next time you wanna do something like that
be more demanding and manly cuz right their you seemed unsure of yourself = super turn off!

example of what you should say to a next girl:
hey im partying at the (place) with my buddies come tag along!

if you say that itll be quicker and easier

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Seems like you guys have wuite a bit of history. That makes it more difficult to use normal game.

I think that in your case, one of the problems was that she felt like it was too much drama and that she could never relax because you might freak out anytime. So show her that that is not the case. When she says that she still likes you (or more I hope) tell her that you like her too and that you miss her since you had so much fun together but that the decision is up to her. Then you let her be for a while and take up contact a few days later and see if there is any change in her behaviour.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Yea dude.. You just have to me more command and stern. Be sure of what it is you want from her and let her know and thats that. Don't worry about the outcome just focus on what your feeling and let her know. For example

" Hey i still have these romantic feelings for you, I llearned from the past and want to give it another shot."

leave the rest up to her..

However, you appear to just be really lonely and you feel like you need someone right about now. Thats not a good foundation to start a relationship on.

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