Well, when you live in a town of a total 10,000 population... it's one of those places where everyone knows everything about everyone.

I've found this to be a pretty big roadblock lately. My town has 4 bars total and I'll get into those in a second.

Bar A: is a country style setup bar with slightly lower prices that attracts middle aged rough looking women/wiggers/black dudes. It's one of those places where if you walk in looking presentable, people just stare at you.

Bar B: is a pub that attracts pretty much their own regulars. It's the same people every day/every weekend and every one is in a tight knit group where every set and group know each other. Sets know other sets/groups etc. A good weekend at this place is like 20-30 people.

Bar C: is an overpriced fancy bar that serves $6 beer which is $2-3 at other bars in hopes to keep the "questionable" crowd away.

Bar D: The other bar is a restaurant/bar and on most weekdays has 2-5 regulars and on the weekends usually 1 set a night.

So already my options on what to work with are slim but lately I've ran into some trouble. One night, I was at Bar D and I was a little drunk but a few of the regulars were there and they were discussing the owner of Bar C. I slipped out and said "I've seen him tipping a bartender at Bar B a lot."

Immediately after of course they were all good friends with the guy so they make a deal out of it, but most of them didn't care. Well word got back to the owner of Bar C and apparently he was friends with the owner of Bar B and now I'm banned for life from Bar B and Bar C.. yeah.. no i'm not joking for that simple comment, I'm banned for life. People get into fights/walk out with beers/throw beers at bartenders in one of those bars but a simple comment gets me banned from both of them.

It just so happens that the Bar C owner has a wife and he stays out late fooling around with the bartender from Bar B. Now.. I'm not a restaurant owner or a public face in the town but if it was me.. I'm pretty sure I would've just let it go.. seems like a bad PR move but what do I know.

Regardless, what would you do in this situation? The nearest town (of 60,000 people) is 25 minutes away -_-

Wait what? How could that comment possibly offend anyone?

Because he's guilty of something which is why he over-reacted. Personally, if I'm the owner of the nicest restaurant in town and I was running around on my wife with a bartender in a small town where everyone talks, I would let it go...

Well, you're town is a lot bigger than mine lol...Where I'm at, I'm surrounded by about 6 towns..within a 15 mile radius...with a year round population of about 5,000..IF THAT....So I know what you mean dude...granted, there are bars everywhere (there has to be in a tourist community)...the summers here are CRAZY.. Like I said, there is MAYBE 5,000 year round residents....but in the summer time, at any given time, there is several HUNDRED THOUSAND residents...so it gets crazy......But, if you go out to the bars around here during the off seasons...you'll notice its 95% middle aged guys...And if there is a group of younger people, its people you've known since elementary school and probably don't even care about being around..So options can be very limited, as meeting new people is difficult because out of those possible 5,000 people...majority of them are senior citizens lol..literally half the people are drug addicts or alcoholics...the "good" girls are hard to find because they stick to themselves and very select close friends who don't goto bars or clubs......so yeah, it is difficult sometimes..but, it isn't hopeless or useless...cuz there is also plenty of shares of success...so don't get discouraged dude....afterall...its a fucking bar..If dude is messing around on his wife...eventually she will find out, and you'll see his world crumble some....it happens all the time in small towns lol

Fuck small towns..i lived in one for a couple years recently and went out maybe 5 times in it...the people were all in clicks and had massive barriers up against anyone trying to infiltrate their groups...if you got drunk and kissed the wrong girl..which happened to me..then your fucked...I had to watch my back continually even after a fucking year passed..and all over one kiss...with a girl who was broken up from her boyfriend only to of course get back with him afterwards..typical....small town people are not sweet and nice they are busy body cunts with too much time on their hands who make a hobby out of causing drama..especially for guys they know are out of towners and not connected within the community, therefore percieved as easy targets to intimidate. And thats why you were banned from those bars brother. they wont ever ban a local, even if he makes a complete ass of himself, but they will ban u as its fun for them to fuck with easy targets.
Hopefully never again will i live in one.
id definatley take my nights out in the next town along with the 60 thousand peeps in it..
truth is unless u live in a fair sized city its best not to fuck around in the town u live in anyhow...if your hooking up with different woman..it aint smart to wind up bumping into them continually....who wants that kinda drama...
so take the drive to the next town...hell get a motel for the night
seriously thats what id do...
if u go every 2 weeks atleast its better than staying where u are... plus u can always relocate if things are a lot better there.

bullshitter is not bullshitting on that one......You described the psychology of small towns very well....Most people are cunts with too much time on their hands, and only joy they get out of life is fucking with other people....its so true.

And good advice on the driving away for a night or 2 instead of running around your own small town

Hell, I live in Ottawa and I bus 25 minutes to get to the bars downtown. It's not that bad. 25 mintue drive is a sinch. The one downside is that they associate the smaller towns around with the hicks that inhabit them. I grew up in small towns and you can't take a shit without the whole town knowing what colour it was within 5 minutes.


Also, make sure you wrap your whopper... there's high STD rates in small towns.

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