I met a girl at a Halloween party last Saturday. We were both a little drunk but she was obviously into me; getting 8" from my face when talking to me with her head tilted/doggy dinner bowl, etc.

She gave me her number before she left and I finally texted her yesterday(5 days later.)

Here was our conversation, she's in bold:

Is this Amber?
Who is this?
Ryan, the badass from the party last Saturday night.
*My last name with an extra s added onto it*?
No s, we totally already went over that last weekend.

What's up?
Lol dang! I knew that! And not much. You?
Delivering babies 'n shit. Arguably the most disgusting thing in the history of disgusting things.
Wait like at a doctor's office?!? Like as in OBGYN? You have me so confussed lol.
I like to consider myself a doctor, but my technical title is 'Paramedic student.'
Lol that's pretty cool! And why are you delivering babies? Just what you got put doing today?
16 hours of labor and delivery is a state requirement.

I got put being the dude standing in the corner trying not to fuck with anything. That is more than enough for me.
Lol haha too funny:) Well why are you texting?
Our last birth was over 2 hours ago, they would lose their shit if I whipped out my phone and started texting in the 'sterile field.'

So what is Ms. (her last name, it's a bit of a joke we had going at the party) up to?
Lol haha too funny! And well I went to class then threw a party for a mental retarded and mentally handicap home. Now I am wathcing Grays Anatomy talking drama lol.
That sounds enthralling. What happend at the said retarded party?
Just cookie walk, dancing, and crafts! Lots of fun.
Oh shit, I thought you meant 'retarded' as in your were calling your roomates dipshits. Lol, my mistake.
No like actually mentally handicap.
Sounds like fun. So what are you majoring in exactly?
Communication and Psych.
I remember that. That's your first major choice?
Yes! I love it.
Cool cool. I've always been into Psych myself.

So what are you up to tomorrow?

No reply from that. Obviously it looks like she freaked out because she saw me about to ask her out and I misinterpreted her comfort level.

I know to wait 48 hours between unanswered texts, yada yada. Where should I branch off from here though?

I'm pretty new to text game so any comments on my general content would be appreciated. For anyone wondering my replies are about dead even with my persona I had when talking to her(and just girls in general), so I'm definitely not coming off as two different people.

Looking back on it my language was definitely too vulgar, oh well. Live and learn.

Also, my replies were generally between 5-30 minutes whereas all of her's were between about 1-3 minutes.

Thanks!

A few things I want to point out that is causing us some of the problems! Don't wait 5 days after you meet someone to text her!!!! EVER. You should probably text her the same day or night you met, and then if you wait 24 hours that's good. You don't need to wait a whole work week. She probably thought you weren't interested in her.

Based on how fast she was texting you she is obviously interested in you, so it's okay to show that interest back. Better to reply quickly and build up that excitement and moment than wait 30 minutes for her to cool down so to speak.

As far as her not replying back yes she might have seen you were about to ask her out... OR she might have just gotten caught up doing something. Life happens sometimes... I would give her a CALL tonight. You can building more rapport calling her than texting her in most cases. If you have a short conversation I wouldn't ask her out again yet. If you spend a good amount of time on the phone talking then I would most definitely ask her out.

Best of luck Mike

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Yeah, I knew 5 days was too long. That was just my own procrastination really. I've heard others recommend texting her the day of but I've never actually done it. I'll definitely have to try it out next time I # close.

Most of my texts had about a 10 minute delay, but I really was in a clinical at the time so I wasn't really in a position to reply as fast as she was. I'm generally not quick to send texts to girls to begin with though, I always ponder for a while about what I'm saying and think of the different ways it can interpreted, etc.

I HATE calling, I know it's a weakness of mine that I need to improve on eventually but I just really don't like having phone conversations with girls I don't know well. But I do suppose it's something I'll have to start working on though.

Thanks for the advice.

As my signature says working on PUA is not about doing the things you like to do. It's about doing the things we aren't good at and have problems with. At one point we might not have been good at approaching and had even some anxiety but we push past it. One of the great things I like about PUA is it forces you to break out of your comfort zones and push yourself to beyond what you thought was possible.

Now is the best time to start working on that and calling her. Sure it'll be akward and uncomfortable for you at first...so what, worst case scenario this one falls through and you meet someone else. NO BIG DEAL.

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Good point. I've learned a while ago that there is no easy way to success.

I got a reply this morning from her, here it is:

Well tonight I have a girl's night out and A LOT OF STUDYING! Sad day!

Being that today is a Friday the whole studying thing seemingly translates to "I'm interested but not comfortable enough to meet again yet."

Does that seem like a fair observation to you all?

It could mean alot of things her saying she needs to study. It dies happen. She could have a paper or something do and she is not one to wait to the last minnute. Naybe she is staying in to go out sat. It does happen, even more with girls that work with meantaly disbled people. Or she could be trying to blow you off. Here is the thing she is still texting you. So you are not dead in the water. you just need more information on where you stand. I would say that with all the information you presented you you need to re build attraction along with some comfort 5 days is a long time to go with out talking to a girl you just meet. She is in a diferant state of mind. Good job rebuilding that with the call backs. Now you just need to establish the connection and giver her a reason to go out. Invite her out don't ask her what she is doing you got things going on she can tag along and have fun. Remember you don't want to take her time you want to allow her to share yours.

Hope this helps,

Maven

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No offense, but imo, your text game is really boring. It seems that you are so serious and not fun at all.

If she didnt text back to that it could be she has a bf or shes not interested. Or she might be busy.

Either way. I would reengage in a couple of days. Sound exciting about your life and just ask how sheve been.

Good advice. Anyone have any tips/links on how to build attraction via texts?
Yeah, I'll be sending her a text tomorrow with a little more ass being it than my previous ones.

As far as my text game being boring, can you give me an example of how you would of replied to one of her texts?


I'm going to somewhat derail the thread with another question that's not really related but I don't feel like taking up another thread in this section.

Situation # 2

The night I got home from this said clinical in the OP I walked in to find my roomate(female), one of her female friends friends, and a blonde 8.5 I've never seen before making mixed drinks in our kitchen.

As soon as I walked in I could see her staring at me the entire time I was taking off my shoes, etc. She was definitely interested before I even said a word.

I then went straight for my room and even though I had my body/eyes turned away from her I heard her yell out 'Hi! I'm Rachael.' I walked over to and introduced myself and then immediately went into my room to take a shower.

I then went into the living room with them after the shower and she started drilling me with questions about myself to which I gave extremely brief close-ended answers. The reason being that I had an Adderall comedown which was potentiated by the effects of massive sleep deprivation hitting me all at once, so I really was in a very anti-social mood and came off as someone that really couldn't be less interested.

At the end of her questions I saw her put her head down as if she felt she'd been rejected.

She then left shortly after. I'll probably see her again in a week or two. Anyone have any tips on how to patch up the situation other than just the obvious being more outgoing and gaming her a bit? Anything in specific I should watch out for?