| I just had a strange date 2 with a really great hb8/9 where there wasn't much of a spark...and I'm not quite sure what to do about it - any thoughts would be really appreciated
I initially met her at a party... She caught my eye when she arrived so I went and introduced myself and spoke with her for a good half hour or so. There was a real connection and a definite spark both ways. I negged her well and intentionally didn't number close because I knew I'd see her a bit later. I went off to chat with some other girls to make her a little jealous. She ended up coming up to find me, and when we chatted next she was very forward, I shared a couple more DHV stories and we swapped numbers..
We arranged to meet up a few days ahead. The text game wasn't great for some reason, but we met up about a week later for drinks - This went really well.. I led, wasn't nervous, we went on for dinner and then a walk, we had loads in common, there was chemistry, we made each other laugh.. held hands for a few hours, kissed on the walk... etc. We spent about 7 hours together and it felt like 3...
.... so we both agreed to hang out again over text... and texted/called a few times through the week. But I failed to build much attraction through that. We knew before the date that we both had to have very very early starts the next day (for genuine work/travel reasons) - and we agreed we'd call it a night by 9/10ish and not drink much... She was keen that we left work as soon as we could so we'd have longer together...
The date was strange though. I was knackered. She apologised in advance that she was going to be nackered... We went for a couple of coctails and had some good chat / laughter.. but it felt a little bit too "friendly" - some of the uncertainty/spark was missing - almost like we'd overdosed on each other and become a bit too "comfortable" together... To compensate for that I tried to escalate and took her to a pretty intimate restaurant for dinner. We still had some good chat to start with - she loved the place...but unlike the last week where we ended up holding hands etc, I sensed a bit of distance, and as we got towards the end of the mains there were a few awkward silences. I put my arm around her - she didn't back away, but didn't respond or move closer.. She apologised for being tired etc... I didn't know what to say to that so I DLV'd by saying it was me too, and that we should try again sometime when we're both less tired... It wasn't like there was a moment where a barrier was created, but gradually we ran out of chat - the last 20mins or so were painfully quiet, and we finished with her saying "she'd call" and let me know when she was free..
I think she'll either be thinking: she was tired and might have ruined it / it was really fun the first time we hung out / maybe we should try again
or: While it was fun the first time there was no chemistry the second / possibly I made it seem too coupley too soon / lets call it quits.
I'm thinking I need to display some high value.. and so have held off from texting for a day or so, but should probably send her a text soon trying to make a joke of it...but I'm not sure whether to apologise for the date or pretend it was all fine and say something else.. and I'm not sure how to build attraction through the texts if her texting style is quite wooden...
Any thoughts?
Thanks!
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