Hey guys and girls! I stumbled across this site by accident looking for advice on how to escalate sexual tension with a particular girl.

The situation is I recently started a new job, and I am one of 3 guys working there- the rest are girls.

So we all had a night out, and I started hanging out with one of the girls cuddling and holding hands (nothing serious!). The thing is, it wasn't until the end of the night (we were all very drunk) that I noticed another girl showing a bit of interest in me. While we were dancing a grabbed her and took her into a different room where she sat on my lap hugging me telling me that I "smell so good". Unfortunately I never closed, mainly because I'd already been established as a player by one of the girls (which i'm not!!) and didn't want a reputation straight away.

Now I will say one thing, this girl (from what I've heard) gets around a bit. She knows she looks good, and I've seen guys talk to her all the time at work.

She does flirt with me a bit at work (i.e. holding eye contact, and making comments like "I bet you do..." etc), and so far I've been playing the "i'm not having any of this" card- trying to ignore her comments and appear to have more value (which annoys her a bit I can tell!). I know this is NOT what I should be doing at all- which is why I've come here for advice.

How do I maintain attraction with this girl and escalate enough to get with her either on a work night, or a night out?

Cheers!

Bump!

Are you for real ...girl is in your lap and u do nothing????
Why???
sure your straight????
Ok lets say u are straight....your just shy or some bullshit....i dunno...
Ok
If a girl is fucking flirting with u...obviosuly flirt back...
see how far she takes it
next time ur out with her capitalise
I really dunno what to tell a guy who apparently is having atleast one chick throw herself at him...
catch her.
is it really that hard.

Well you've established an excellent frame by playing a little hard to get, not giving in to her teasing. Now you'll have to do your part too by doing some push-pull. Do some light teasing and then be lightly rough on her.

But as it sounds to me things are going really well. She's trying and you're being higher value. That's all a man can wish for. When you go out again, you can make a subtle move. But wait for her to engage the action.

i disagree with this advice...
this is over analysing a simple senario.
This chick is into you...
u only need to push pull and all that manipulation shit with chicks who are not into u...so as to get them into u.
the girl is into u already...fuck her about and she will lose interest not gain it.

Haha thanks for the responses guys!

@bullshitter1 - I'm pretty sure i'm straight lol. I just had mixed feelings about the girl I started the night off with (who was around at the time), and I didn't want to get branded a man-whore/player on my first night out with them! In hindsight I wish I could have just grabbed her and fucked her right there!

@P-Style - Thanks for the advice buddy! Next night out might not be till xmas so it might be a bit of an effort keeping things fresh with her. I.e. there's only so much flirting you can do before either one of us gets bored. Plus I think getting her number and calling her to meet up or whatever will make things too serious... I want to keep the sexual tension there if I can! What you think?

When you say "fuck her about" you mean by teasing her and letting her tease me and so on? We do work together so its pretty hard to go direct unless there was another night out soon.

all i can say is a girl who flirts with me is putty in my hands...
if it was me id do her in the rest room where u work...
next time she says some flirty bullshit...capitalise and
ask her for a word in private.
when she follows u to somewhere private
tell her.."actiually...i wanted to talk about all the flirting you do with me"
"and i just wanted to tell u that i like it and i like u"
see what her response is...should be something pretty fucking good.
"i just didnt want to let on in front of everyone...you know"
"so u can flirt all day long if you want"
by this point she ought to be pretty fucking stunned and hopefully turned on and responsive towards you.
next gage her reaction...if she is all smiles and shit its on..
it could just happen right there...
i would

i think i explained what id do above...when i was a dope many years ago in college...i had a fucking stunner hooked on me...and i never capitalised ...did a lot of pushing instead...mainly as she was so forward it intimidated me..plus she had a boyfriend and that scared me aswell....she finally gave up...
this is what i mean..the ones who are into u...are easy...dont wast ur time gaming them...its counter productive

That sounds awesome- but would take some fucking big balls to pull off. Probably would end up being the embarrassment of the club lol!! Cheers anyway mate, i'll think about it next time shes in.

EDIT: Just read your message above... I like your thinking dude

when u make the step beyond afc..no offence....but when u make that leap forward in thinking...out of the box...you will see what i am talking about...
its so easy when its on a plate...if ur talkiing to her in private..and it goes to shit and u wind up looking a fool its only her word against yours...
if she really flirts with u as much as u say...it wont trunt to shit it will turn to a fuck
either there or after work
see to game women you have to lose this big ego that most everyone has
u have to be willing to chance being a fool...there aint any other way to do it
women say no..women say yes...but if you dont ask all u get is nothing

Think I just had an epiphany. Shit just blew my mind

well i am a zen master.

Ok so I was at work today- and I have completely ruined my chances with this girl. For one the other girl who I kinda liked was there and looked so miserable all night it brought me down. Then the girl I really wanted started giving me advice on how to do my job better- then told me I was being miserable with customers (I was but I didn't fucking need her to point it out). So for the rest of the night i put this block up- not wanting to even make full eye contact with anyone... I dont know why i did this so fucking AFC. Anyway I fear I've hit the point of no return, any advice? Kinda feel like a loser which no doubt I am at the moment!

Yawn....
I gave solid advice...
look, big deal your on a downer tonight and didnt attempt shit...
you work with these girls every day so who fuckin cares...
its not as if u got a time constraint on you where u have to work shit out in one night, your not in a club or bar situation whenre the girl u see is gonna be gone forever unless u work some magik.
go to work and have a better attitude...
woman wanna be around a fun guy..someone who can lift their mood not someone who goes on a downer cos they are in a shitty mood
u wanna be the guy who flips womans emotional state from shitty to happy
anyhow tomorrow is another day
little things..like an unexpected compliment can flip switches.
u wanna strat working on ur game.