How to find THE ONE. I want a girl I fall so much in love with that Id do anything for her just like in any Romeo and Juliet style Hollywood love movie. And she will feel the same way back. No jealousy. Fights that end moments later in make-up sex. one to finish your sentences. A girl that you find, and suddenly every love song you've ever heard, where they all repeat those same generic shit lines like "baby im falling for you" "Id do anything for you" actually make sense and you find a reason to like them. You know what I'm getting at.

So how the fuck do you get this girl? well 90% of you are doing it wrong. Even those who claim to be so good with women, are ironically winding up old and lonely.

Is it Fate like in the matrix? where Neo was already chosen to be the one by some greater power.

Do you have to find the one? Constant failures and searching by dating multiple women at once to increase your chances? And risk losing a girl who could be perfect for you through this selfish multi-dating lifestyle that will push her away before you even get a chance to know her for who she is... With this abundance mindset you are sure to ruin any great thing that may come your way, because of your need to sleep with many women without giving any a real chance.

I dont think its either of these above.

I believe you have to create it. How many of our grandparents were eachothers only ever partners and yet stayed together for life? Both of mine were. Life partners is pretty amazing. I think you need to work on and grow in love with one person, rather than work on hundreds until you magically find "the one." I know you can say times are changing, and its not common to stay with one partner in this day and age. well thats damn true. Just look at the climbing divorce rates because of it... its sad

I think this whole abundance of women mindset most 'players' have, is ruining there chances of finding the girl of their dreams more than they think. A girl who might have been there all along.

When you dig through 100s of women, you will stop and notice the special women! And I think you will work hard to make that one work! Atleast thats my mentality.

Divorce rates have increase for many reasons.
1. Women are more independant (women use to stay at home and have no job)
2. Media makes people realize there are options now
3. People have the chance to easily move around the world freely
4. In general it's easier to meet new people

My grand parents met on German slave farm during WW2!! That's a serious bond dude. They had problems and worked through them. But at the same time, they live in a town now with 300 people. No car, no phone ect.. Even if one wanted to leave, they couldn't, so they work out there differences instead of the common trend for divorce. It's all about putting in work to make it work.

It's a different mentality now. More options. If you married a women and 3 years down the road, there was no "spark", would you stay with her unhappily? For arguements sake lets say there are no kids.

I think the whole player abundance mentality is actually helping people find someone they can actually love and want to spend there life with. Unless they take it to the extreme and next girls for small things. Those types of guys are gonna fail.