Now let me add something here, these are just "rules" I set for girls I date exclusively:
- No interactions or "meet-up's" with your ex's
- No having male friends where they meet up one-on-one without me being there
- No vacations with "the girls" or with any male friends
Im not FORCING anything on these women. They can do what they please, and I dont condone physical confrontations or invasions of her privacy. These are standards I set for myself. If they dont like it, goodbye. I dont follow them in my car everywhere they're going. I actually give my women plenty of space because I like my space as well. These rules apply to me too. I dont string women along or meet girls on the side. I follow my own standards. That's respect. None of this means that I am bitter towards women....But most guys dont give women enough credit. They're fucking intelligent. When they feel a relationship has an expiration date, the vast majority of them groom eligible candidates before leaving their current one so they feel better about doing it. Whether it's stringing an ex along or just a "guy" friend, it happens.
I've been on both sides of the coin. Enough with this "care" bullshit.
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That is retarded in my opinion. People care about eachother and if she cares she won't "fuck guys for the thrill of it". I dont fuck other girls when I'm in relationships and I'm possible the world's largest pervert. Where do you get this outlook? Bad relationships?
Anyways, not too contradict what I just said. Short story. Ex boyfriends will always have a place in a girl's heart. I broke up with my GF couple months back and guess who was the first person she got in contact with? And he was a total clingy possesive douche bag, and not even the manly wife beating version, I'm talking crying outside your window creeping Tom type.
I assume she is close with his family? By no doubt in my mind, HE will try to bang her. Girls can be very loyal though, a girl with high self respect will tell him to bugger off. You cant do much without looking like a idiot. Just let her reschedule with you.... Or you can freak out, look crazy and tell her she can't see this boy who has a dieing family member.
The more you try to uncover dirt on people, the more you find and you will never be happy with any girl. Not sayig there is dirt, but the road will lead to relationship self sobotage.
Why do you think she got in touch with him?... She needed someone right then and there who she knew wanted her, for validation. And...do you know how he was during that relationship for YOURSELF? Or what she told you? Rarely do girls that I have been with talk up their ex like he was the best ever. Why would they? I have NO idea where you were going with that one....
Anyway...the OP did the right thing. Thank god someone here does have some sense. If she had any respect for the relationship she was in, that should have taken precedence over an ex's family member dying. She was ASKED...by HIM to come. So obviously she wasn't "that" close with his family. Typical textbook case of an ex looking for a way back in. Set your own standards.
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