this situation sounds shit, i feel for you man, i do. Do you have some close male friend you can hang with and talk to about this? Its healthy to talk openly to someone you really trust - i know i have a close friend who i go to in tough times. its not a sign of weakness, we are social animals, communicate.

Your ex is fucked up, whether or not she realises it (and indeed if you do) her behaviour is self destructive, you have to just see it for what it is - a cheap shot and a short term solution to her problems of lack of self respect and a subconcious form of validation and ego boost, your break up may have shaken her hard. Sounds like she is heavily influenced by her friend, we know girls are more susceptible to this than guys, she will grow out of it. She will see how short sighted it is in time, your best hope is to live your life away from that sort of shit.

concentrate on self improvement my man, gym 3/4 times a week, jog or swim daily, if there was ever a sport you loved but stopped take it up again. the endorphines from the sport and the new people you will meet will give you a boost. throw yourself at work, earn that promotion, that bonus, whatever it is
Don't even worry about picking up girls if thats not what you want right now... girls will always be there - its about you now.

get your head right, it will be worth it. then you'll be ready to take on any girl/situation/problem or challenge with a clear eye and a steady hand.

you gotta hold on to what you believe man, if you believe your future happiness and life involves a significant other and kids and long term commitment and all that jazz then you protect that dream and let it happen. so some girls and some guys cheat, and many relationships fail, remember along the way that alot dont. that aint naive, thats real bro. your happiness is in your hands, so go grab it
best of luck man.

well some updates...

She's now "confused" first she said that she likes somebody else, and she doesn't see me as a man, then she sent me a sms saying that she has to think...
So now I don't talk anymore with her...

oh, i forgot to mention, she has a breast surgery (about 1 month ago)... so i know she can get a better man, and that's driving me crazy

Good on the first point. Well done.

On the second, though, this is your problem: You have low self-confidence. You feel that there's some better man out there that she "deserves" more. Now, I don't know you, so I'm not going to stroke your ego, and tell you that it's nonsense and that you're the best man out there.

Rather, I want you to spend some time and think about yourself. In fact, write it out. What are some of your hobbies? What is your dressing style? What do you like about yourself, and what do you not like about yourself? Now think about the ideal man. Create a character in your head that is respected by everyone for being a man. Not necessarily liked, but absolutely respected. What is he like? What is he not like? Fill out something on him like yourself. Then set some time aside every week to become that man. Maybe that means dressing different, maybe that means picking up a new hobby, or getting rid of an old hobby. Respect yourself. Then women will respect you, too.

Good luck, man!

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This here is your problem. She doesn't see you as a man, because you're not behaving like one.

Women are not attracted to looks. They are attracted to masculinity. They want you to be in control and be dominant and strong. They want to be submissive to you, they want you to lead them.

If you are insecure, needy, clingy, approval-seeking, indecisive, and valuing her more than you value yourself, then she will never respect you or be attracted to you.

You need to be a leader, decisive, assertive, confident, self-assured. You need to have a purpose, ambitions, and passions. You need to have a life outside of your girl.

You have to care less than she does. Right now, you care a lot more than she does and it makes you look weak and needy in her eyes. You need to show her that you don't need her.

The first thing you have to do is establish No Contact. Stop talking to her all together. Delete her number, her email, and every other form of communication you have with her. If she contacts you, then you need to tell her that you don't think it's a good idea to be in contact, that you can't be friends and you both need space and that you have to get on with your life. And ask her to respect your space.

It's counter-intuitive, but it's the best course of action. It's Push/Pull theory. One person pulls, the other pushes. Right now, you are pulling her in, so she is pushing you away. You need to push her away, so that she will pull you in.

At some point down the road, she WILL contact you again. It might be weeks, months, or even years, but it will happen. During that time, you need to focus on you. Do not sit around and wait for her. Work on becoming a strong, confident, masculine man. And MOVE ON. Forget about her, and if you do think about her, think about the negative things. Live your life, and when the time comes that she contacts you again, you can decide then if you still want her back or not.

TheFreshPrince: thank you!!
yeah, that's exactly what I'm going to do, She is a HB 5, she's not very pretty, but she was a great person...
Now she made her boobs, and started going to the gym, her sister told me that she want to be a fitness girl...

That's what is driving me crazy, because all men will want her when she get a perfect body...

anyways, I think you're right about not contacting her, thank you!

yeah, you def. need to spend time getting yourself together...it's not easy but pondering on and waiting on someone else's decision is going to eat you ALIVE....

You need to dive into life. Get some new hobbies. Meet new people. Take the focus away from sex and girls. Forget about your ex. Delete and throw out everything that is connected to her.

GO TRAVEL. Hop on a plane and go on a tour, stay in hostel you will meet amazing people and probably get laid as well.
That is my advice for you, but unless you actually do something different you will feel like shit.

this is rock bottom..things can only get better

this is what they call love...it isnt love really though....its just ego..
real love is what a normal parent feels for their childeren
there is no need to say fuck all
there is no need to feel you gotta possess that person
you just accept that child as they are with no conditions

romantic love however is more like heroin addiction
once you go cold turkey it feels like well..cold turkey

i once made jokes about guys who had this condition but i fell into the same trap haha so i know all about this bullshit called love...but remember it aint real love.

what your really feeling is a loss of control over someone u thought u had power over..u thought she would be there when u needed her..predictable and reliable...but when she turned into super hoe...it crushed you...she wasnt the sweet girl you thought u knew and its fucked up your own belief systme in people...i mean if she can be a slut and she was someone u thought u knew intimatley then fuck...what chance is there that u can ever find anyone to rely on to be faithful and loyal.
the illusions u had are shattered...
same thing happens when someone invests their whole life in a job and then get made redundant....they go to pieces...they world they thought was real and that they had a stake in collapsed.
nervous breakdown time
or u can see it all how it is...just like im laying it out for u.

u want love
then let people be what they are gonna be...especially women...
this is how to be successful in love and life.
and how to not be suicidal.
the girl who broke me..my spirit more than my heart..looked like an angel...i thought she was one cos she looked like one...stupid me...
I learnt...there aint no angels on earth...just people..and people are only ..well human...full of flaws
life is what it is...its not heven...its earth..
if u kill urself u may wind up in hell though
so id stick it out here if i were u
once u realise what life is...it wont fuck u up anymore.

if thats really what you believe, then find something else worth living for. Search for your true passion and dedicate yourself to it. When you know what you are on this earth for and have a meaning, girls will fall inlove with that.