We broke up two months ago and decided to take a month break to "get over each other." The following month we saw each other and by the end of the night she was all over me so we set up a date for the following friday. It didn't go remotely how i thought it would. It ended with me pushing a bit too hard, and she just... wasn't down with it. I also spilled my guts in feelings to her, fault on my part i suppose. She told me to "take a month until you've gotten over it, and talk to me then," was the gist of it. Less than a month passed and she contacted me first (this monday), but i still wasn't ready. I played it off my best regardless. The conversation was soft over the phone and we planned lunch for friday. She ended with "don't try anything," but it was extremely mumbled, and her tone changed dramatically. Felt like she was lying to herself. I feel her feelings for me; they haven't passed. My question is this... Should I?

a) Make my move as soon as we're comfortable, the moment is right n' such, and everything is perfect, THE FIRST TIME IT COMES.

b) Be her friend for... i'de say a month or so. Give myself a little time and then progress if there is still sexual tension between us. Make my move when i've built up to where things should be before...

c) Cancel the date friday, freeze her out for a bit.

d) (Your suggestion)





I know this will be asked... She's worth it.

I think the best thing you can do is go to the date and just be really cool about things. Tell her you understand why she broke up with you. This will show massive maturity and will also make her feel that you have the ability to change.

Don't try anything though. Just act like a friend and I think she will probably come on to you a bit. Definitely don't spill out your heart just be cool and confident. Be the guy she fell for in the first place.

I don't have all the answer and I know this means a lot to you so I don't want to steer you down the wrong path. I read a book called get your ex back or something like that. I found it too late but I think you're still in with a chance. PM me and I should be able to send you over a copy by email if you like. I think it's one of those books that you can just share with friends.

Good luck mate,

GoGetta

Mate Gogetta is totally wrong.

First why did you guys decide to break up?
My opinion,

You tried, you told her what you felt, you push too hard and you push her away. Why?

At this point she is mind gaming, I really believe she was the one to break up with you, don’t believe this “we”.

She just want your attention, she needs validation since no seriously candidate has filled your spot, god I thought I had better options maybe but no one is boosting my ego, oh let me check if he still on my zone so he can boost my ego, which you did. Being all romantic and trying to fix things, so she feels empowered and her ego went to roof. She probably is going to mind fuck you a bit believe me girls simply love seeing a man begging, they will manipulate this in order not to lose this.

Fuck her the more she knows you are still in her orbit, the more she will make you suffer.
I
m going to give a tip… I shouldn’t its kinda giving drug to a rehab drug addict, but since I think you are going to this anyway better do the correct way.
In my view you have two options

A) You cut contact with her , let her chase… if she truly likes you, she will try, and she will be the one to spill her guts to you. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND REMEMBER THIS YOU ALREADY TRIED AND WHAT DID SHE DO?


B) Or you go to date be super neutral, Like you aren’t interested in what she is saying, you have polite conversation, you don’t talk about you two, this is a must don’t talk about your relationship , or anything about the past. Turn on the cocky. LIKE SHE IS only a friend you tease. DON’T TRY ANYTHING EVEN IF SHE TRIES( BELIEVE SHE WILL TRY) don’t follow for this she will try to regain power, since you aren’t boosting you have to dodge this shit test. Play the game neg her.

And stop contacting seriously no contact no txt or whatsoever before the date, only to clarify hours or anything. Don’t answer her.

After this date she will be so confused that she doesn’t know what you are thinking. So you cut contact after the date don’t tell her anything. If she try to set up anything you flake. 2 weeks later you invite for something casual at your house if you live alone. You game her be fun and polite, try cube routine and some other games, Hold on seductive eye contact. Try not break, escalate sexual tension, and then you go for the kiss. If she reject you say no problem and continue like she had no fucking effect in you.

Girls respond to jealousy and missing someone. So this is the cards you have to play

Last tip if you are going to be her friend and try to rekindle that attraction with friends you are dooming your self NEVER BUT NEVER DO THIS. At this point OR SHE IS YOUR GF OR SHE IS JUST A PERSON YOU SAY HI WHEN YOU SEE ON THE STREET OK? she can have you as friend period.


Believe me Ive got back to my ex and helped my 2 friends getting back to there exs.

The only thing we have in common is that we regret getting back with our exs, we are single

Good luck Hope ive helped

What Snake Doctor is suggesting is a lot of work. How much time will you have wasted if it backfires?

Live your life and let her go. If you meant a damn to her, she'll come back to you. By then, you might not even want her back. But she won't get back with you if she knows she can have you back whenever she wants.

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5 point for knucklehead, that was my option A

Arishorts give Snake Doctor some rep because he gave you fucking good advice

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You WANT to make a change.
You CAN make a change.
You WILL make a change.

Ambitious to be succesfull => Shyler

Guessing people not having the same opinion as Gogetta he gives bad reputation.

At least tell your opinion what advices did I fucked up.

Ty shlyer.

this all sounds like option c is the best? but go on the date as a reminder of myself to her?

So we went out to lunch, everything went swell. There were awkward silences at times, but it's only natural. Caught some IOI's, positive body language, some lip licking and lots of eye contact. She even asked me to stay there and make a "french-fry house" before we left, but i was busy after. She also had a "group project" to do too. There was an excess in conversation, and by that i mean even after we finished our meal, we stayed there for an extra 30 minutes or so... Didn't mention a second meeting, just said bye and we left. This was after i invited her to lift with me after as a joke. The time ended, however, with "the one-arm side hug." That threw me off a bit. An hour afterwards she posted on my Facebook wall too.

Did i miss anything? What to do next?

Snake doctor,

You call me out and say I'm completely wrong and then completely agree with my opinion by agreeing with what I said in your option B. Cold! lol

Since you went on the date mate I'd now go with snake doctors option A and cut contact for at least a little while. That being said it depends what comment she left on your wall.

English is not my main language but I think I can express myself really good.
"be super neutral, Like you aren’t interested in what she is saying, you have polite conversation, you don’t talk about you two, this is a must don’t talk about your relationship , or anything about the past."

Can you see the difference here... You tell her to be cool to talk about things, I tell him NOT TO TALK ABOUT THE RELANTIOSHIP. and act neutral. Things are different right?
This is wrong also.So wrong do I have to explain it?... Again dont see anything related in my post that confirms this.

So te only thing I agree with you its one phrase... and this has errors. Dont be a friend
"f you are going to be her friend and try to rekindle that attraction with friends you are dooming your self NEVER BUT NEVER DO THIS. At this point OR SHE IS YOUR GF OR SHE IS JUST A PERSON YOU SAY HI WHEN YOU SEE ON THE STREET OK? she can have you as friend period"


Meaning my mistake was the "totally wrong", should ive said only "wrong". Lol, now what cold is ,giving bad reputation only because of that, but atleast you came and told me what, I respect that.

She knows you have acess to her facebook, so this is her manipulating and guess its working. If she want it she has to be the one to make the move. Is fair right? So do what I told you.

Knucklehead, really? Who're you, Moe from the Three Stooges? I'll resist the urge to call you a poopyhead. Seriously pal, I meant no disrespect.

If you live your life, this girl is going to come back around when you're seeing somebody else. It's funny how it works, you'll see.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Never seen "Three stoodges". but no disrespect, so lighten up it was a joke.

I love you, too.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"