| Understand that she dumped you for a reason..
Identify that reason....
Relationships can be tricky and hard...You can think everything is fine, then the next day, you're alone because she left.
So identify the reason(s) that lead up to her leaving.
If the reason(s) directly relates to you....then you can work on it. You can work on becoming a better person.
I just got out of a relationship with a beautiful woman whom I love very much.. I got laid off at my job... I was fortunate to be able to work with my dad a little bit after that, but his business has slowned down due to the time of year. And also due to the time of year, and my lack of work experience, since I've only had 3 jobs, each in different fields, it is very hard to find a job in my area....She goes to college 3 days a week, and works in between. She got tired of being the only one financially contributing to the relationship. She felt I wasn't trying hard enough to keep her....That was the problem that lead up to her leaving.
Find your problem. And fix it, so when the next girl comes along, you have more knowledge and experience in the relationship department, and you won't repeat yourself again.
Stay busy.
Find a hobby.
If you have friends, hang out with them and do fun stuff..Get out there and mingle with people..
And most of ALL!! Don't contact her!!!
Yes, you miss her very much and want to be with her....but talking to her now will only drive her farther away.
If she contacts you, thats one thing. Sure, talk to her for a few minutes then say you have things to do and that you have to go.. OR...dont talk to her at all.
Give her time to herself. Maybe she needs time to miss you. Maybe not.....Its not up to you tho...so leave her alone and continue moving forward
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