I am a graduate student. Yeah, I don't know why I told you that either. I guess I just want to give you an idea of my age.

Anyway, I interact with 5-6 of the same girls on a daily basis. We work together and have all the same classes, and will continue to do so for the next year. One girl in particular interests me the most; she is by far the best looking, and we have the most in common. We have been raised with a similar lifestyle, and overall I am extremely attracted to her. However, despite trying everything I can to get her to be attracted to me, it just doesn't seem to work.

I have asked her to go out to dinner twice now. I regret the way I worded my invitation, but here is a summary of the two invitations:

Attempt 1:

Me: Want to go to get something to eat after class?

Her: I actually can't, my best friend just broke up with her boyfriend and she's sad blah blah blah blah.

Attempt 2:

We were talking about some random stuff which led to this:

Me: As your reward, I will let you pick where we go for dinner Friday night.

Her: Hahaha, you'll have to let me think on that.

2 weeks later, she still hasn't let me know. Not that I was expecting anything, since I think it's pretty clear what she was implying. And yes, I realize I should have done the whole "I'm going to XXX, want to come along?", but too late now.

Anyway, I have noticed that as I try harder to step back and build rapport (she is a little shy so I figured I would try to build up more comfort before asking again), I am simultaneously attracting the other 5 girls but NOT her. What the hell? I walk into the room where we work and they act like I'm a fucking celebrity, but not my target. She smiles at me then continues to do her work.

I also have reason to believe she is interested in this other guy who is in a few of our classes. No need for me to get into details since I'm pretty sure this is a fact. Any ideas on where to go from here? She texts me a lot for random bullshit about school, but that's about it.

Well its classic PUA theory that if you want to attract a girl in a group you should start by ignoring the target and working over her friends instead in order to make her see you as a cool guy and start to get jealous of the fun interactions she sees you having with her friends. This is exactly what's happening.

It's time to let go of your immediate objectives and relax, just focus on working the whole group and being the cool sociable guy...when you stop pressuring her and demonstrate that you dont need her she just might come around eventually.

I see. That makes sense. Thank you for the reply.