So I've been in a relationship a year now, and I am emotionally invested to our relationship. It isn't perfect we both have flaws, but I'm not here for that. I am here because I am afraid that if we ever brake up I will suffer like I did my last relationship if not worse this time. So I wanted to be able to walk away at any time which at this moment I can't I know I am not strong enough to, I do have options of other women but they don't compare to my girlfriend at all. Is there any advice you guys could give me? Thanks for reading.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

It's all about your mindset. You give her loads of value. "The other girls are not like my gf", Maybe not them, but there are much better girls then you gf. Always.

Another thing, what would happen if she breaks up with you? You'll be sad for a week, maybe 2. Maybe you don't have sex for couple months. Too bad. But you'll have a completly new road ahead of you. And you stop being sad when you realise that. It's not a feeling that stays. So, couple sad days, and a new path, can you handle that?

pinkstar know's what he's talking about.

"If my wife breaks up with me, I'll be upset... a day, maybe a day and a half"

People have the ability to do overcome the impossible

Dont you think you have the ability to overcome a breakup?

Enough with the motivation crap.

Fucking normal, one year is long time even if you didnt love its not that easy cutting that connection. Even if she is the one to break up with you, she would feel that loss

Remember this, you lean from your mistakes, which means, this breakup on the long term will make you stronger. Because when you meet miss perfect you wont fuck up things.

Alright. Personally Im going through a bit of a strength phase right now and kinda know where your coming from. I too was living with a bird who I thought I would marry and then when it went pear shaped I was an emotional mess. Lost all game/mojo... back to square one.

What I have come to realise is that we are men and strength is our gift. Women dont have this as they are used to having a strong male to lean on. We only have ourselves.

You are strong enough, you just havent found access to that strength yet.
What you must do in all situations is: rise above your emotions.

I am a pretty emotional guy and have let one fucking girl after the next in 15 odd years of pickup slip through my fingers. Why? I acted from an emotional (weak) victim mindset rather than one of strength. Every single fuckup (almost) I can trace back to weakness, and allowing my emotions to drive my actions. Now that does not happen. I now have the ability to spot weakness on my part and stamp it out before it do something stupid.... like message the ex: 'Hey baby Im that loser you used to live with who still likes you. I'm back in town and... I know you feel nothing back, but can I have the pleasure of your company for a hour over lunch? Please.' Instead, when I went home recently, complete ignore/non-contact. Word will get back to her eventually. Strength.

Yeah you will feel pain if a breakup happens... but always rise above your emotions. The man you are inside controls what you do and how you handle everything in life. Do not allow yourself to be guided by the weak part of your personality. It really is that simple.

Thanks for the replies.

It's not that I think we will be ending any time soon, It's just I saw a post on it the other night and was thinking to myself could I walk away which the answer was no. I don't think I have that mental strength you are talking about yet, maybe there are better women out there for me but I haven't met yet and I don't want to meet anyone else I am happy in this relationship maybe that's why I am questioning this. I understand where you are coming from emotional weakness I let that get in the way of my relationship now I always over react, So I was wondering a way to control this?

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

so your advice for creating a lasting, successful, and fulfilling relationship is to shut off your emotions and behave like a Vulcan?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Not quite Mack hahaha, girls like Vulcans whats wrong with that?!
Im referring to the bad times, when the chips are down and you've been kicked in the guts, dont be a victim to your emotions. When you're in control though and everything is cruising along nicely with your bird and you're happy then yeah be emotional, romantic etc...

I'd love to be in that place right now, but jobs aren't exactly getting thrown at me right now. It sucks soo much that I have no money to take my girlfriend or do stuff I enjoy. Is there any other ideas or ways I can get out there and look for jobs I've done all the obvious things. Is there away PUA can help me?

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

Dude listen to these guys Ive been in the same relationship for almost 3 years and its fucking annoying as hell, get out of it while u can , i just feel too comfortable to get out of it... Before that I was able to get a new girl every week, nowdays if i dont get any im stuck jerking it to lesbian porn