My ex wife and i went through something like this, honestly... dont talk to her about it as you said the problem lies with you and talking only signifies weakness. Instead think about this, next time you think your suffocating her go out, go for a jog, pull your car apart, whatever helps you centre yourself. I know this doesnt sound like it will help at bedtime when you feel needy and want to fuck but if you get the emotional crap your putting yourself through out of the way during the day it helps her be more interested. Like someone said get your sexual energy elsewhere, but it doesnt need to be sexual. Im a mechanic, i used to just go to the shed and build my toys when i felt needy or like i was going to suffocate (my ex) and honestly... lets just say cos i got rid of the afc behaviors she'd often come to the workshop and fuck my brains out... Basically role reversal/ then she felt needy because i was doing something interesting and fun
Hope this makes sense
