Well I agree, but I failed completely with her. Too much problems in my family to "keep my shit together". Total lack of game. And I mean it. That's the reason I don't even felt anger towards her. But still, even 12 (now 14) women after, I feel something for her. If I was solid back then I wouldn't even care. But this is just different matter.

what you feel is one-itis

you want to prove yourself by getting her back and only this time not fucking up

i get it

but that ship has sailed

she's on some other cock now

and chances are, she is just looking for validation and attention

take what you learned from the relationship with her,

and apply it to other women

of course, this is totally my opinion

but i spent a lot of my life being hung up on exes

and not a damn one of the was worth it

i've learned my lesson there

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Thanks Mack. Well it definetely was oneitis. But now it is normal thing, I just don't know what to do, never been in situation like that.
I'm not hung on her, I have no problem with no contact, got other women in my life. But she had qualities that other women seem to be lacking. and there's been a few since we stopped seeing each other. I learned a lot from that story, most of things I did previously I did unconsciously, but for last half of a year I had built my game and confidence from scratch. And most important thing from this lesson :
The only women I would be with exclusively, will be my wife after giving birth to my 3rd kid, and 10 years of being together. Till then, I want to have plenty of options.
Yeah I want her back, she had some qualities that these 14 women were lacking. I'd like to know what to do to get her back. No rush etc. Just what would You do APART from moving on:) That already happened:) But still I got some feelings for her.

I know this one well...
First you are better than this. Stop stressing. Do Nothing, retain the cold stance/ not completely cold but make her come to you. She stuffed up not you so make her run to you if thats what she wants. Next stop thinking about her, it only makes you feel nervous about her and you want control, plus if you overthink on this you may miss better opportunities. Now for the brutal fact of the whole thing... if she did it once she will re offend, sorry. Now im not saying dont let her in, just be prepared to get hurt. My ex wife did this to me, she ran off with a guy while i was away at work then begged me back... lasted another six years and she did it again so i got rid of her, since then ive watched girls do it over and over(usually to mates). My rule. If she needs a second chance shes not worth it. That said i'll still sleep with exs, i just assert my rule and that i wont if they have a partner.
Just be careful and dont get hurt
Hope it helps

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Thanks mate.
Yeah i hear that a lot, they usually do it again. But on the other hand I know few people with happy relationships after one of them left them. It depends on maturity of woman.
back to my case: Well it won't hurt, I regain the distance/disassociation I was missing for almost two years. The phase of hurt and non stop thinking passed. I'm thinking of her sometimes but it is not the oneitis thinking - believe me, I know it well:) But still i want her back. Mack is right, it's partly my ego. I screwed up big time.
So basically keep no contact and play hard to get? any other things to do???

If you want to persue her...
Go out, run amuck, enjoy yourself and post bits and pieces on bookface, show her what shes missing... but the pics have to have genuine smiles... so honestly just do it for yourself, have some fun, dont expect her to come running today or even next week... But they all come back, if your happy and smiling, out with beautiful women, living life as its meant to be... its what they all want in the end... And dont worry, if shes messaging you it means shes also looking through your profile... women are strange creatures
Think half this advise i really need to take myself...lol

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I don’t understand why we sometimes complicate our lives like this for nothing. If it’s meant to be then it is easy…everything falls into place automatically and nobody plays games or crap like that. Personally I drop the subject the second I detect any form of BS, flakiness, lies or whatever.

People don’t change in 6 months. If you get enthusiastic about her again she will do the same thing. Worst of all she is initiating with you WHILE in a relationship!!! What makes you think she won’t do the same with you if you date her? These special little types of women in our lives are very very tempting but also very poisonous…steer clear or don’t and get caught in the venus fly trap.

But if you do chose to pursue this (and I know you will) the I have no recipes but I’ll suggest this:

go very very very slowly and don’t show too much interest…keep her hungry and ALWAYS keep the upper hand…but also show her why it’s good to be with you and not somebody else…

lol Ann landers over here tss. Back to work O_o

So now there's no contact on both sides. Two options :
- she was seeking validation, didn't got it, went seeking it somewhere else
- I cooled it off too much
Fb profile is ok, but I'm not bragging there, just tiny tips of what where, who. Tiny. I think that' better. Oh and btw, since my last post I found another fuckfriend:) Life is peachy:)

alright, If I write something to her. will it look weak? Need opinion from someone who looks at it from the side:)
cheers guys!