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Dude, in DC, I see plenty of Indian guys date attractive white women. I see East Asian guys date white women. I see Latino, blacks, etc.. date white women.
It happens if you try.
Trust me, I was in your boat. I made the same assumptions (I'm East Asian). But, through no effort of my own, I have met plenty of white women who have been attracted to me. The only reason they didn't work out was because I fucked up and punked out. After letting this happen one too many times, I am no longer making excuses for myself and I'm going out there, dealing with rejection every day to find the women who are worthwhile enough and cool enough to be in my life.
Listen, race does matter. You will face more rejection because you are Indian. It is just how it is. But, there are cool, progressive women out there for you who are opened minded about dating outside their race. You just have to find them.
Finally, I get to hear from an Asian brotha. I visited DC, never saw such a couple but hey I will take your word for it.
Man see I have this one Blonde, really good looking too, who does talk to me and this one brunette who often approaches me when she sees me and stuff. I mean but overall this thing it isn't like it gets me in real life but sometimes it does come up.
No article has given me more fits than this one:
http://www.rooshv.com/totem-pole-of-race-attractiveness
You are getting a lot of tough love on this board, but don't take it personally...just realize that you have to work on yourself first. Here's some practical advice:
First, start running, cycling, or swimming, and try to do one cardio activity a day 5-6 days a week for a half-hour to an hour per session. I try to swim three times a week (about 2500 meters in an hour), and on my dry land days I either run outside for about 45 minutes (I go slow 3-4 miles) or do a 45-60 minute spin class (I don't own a bike, but want to exercise my quads). I will do an elliptical if I am sick.
If you are a student and have spare time, try to do a two-a-day. Cardio in the morning and strength training in the afternoon. For strength training, I try to do body weights (decline pushups, pull-ups, dips, and squats), with some free weights and kettlebell work thrown in. Check out exercise sites like Crossfit...they have videos to show you how to do them. If you don't have a gym, just do body weights for now, but try to get a gym membership. I especially like doing circuits (doing one set of strength exercises and going to a different exercise without a break).
Also, change your diet. I don't know what you eat, but processed food makes you feel like shit. Eat more fruits and vegetables. Also, try to eat seasonally: an apple or pear right now tastes so much better than a candy bar to me. In winter, citrus is in season, so eat oranges. When spring and summer rolls around, eat berries, melons, and peaches. Always eat salads with plenty of protein in them. Replace all your white grains with whole wheat. Cut down on refined carbs and red meat. You will feel so much better within a matter of days.
These changes have helped me immensely with my emotional issues. When you keep doing this, and see the results, you will realize all these negative thoughts you have are nothing more than imbalanced chemicals that can be managed with rigorous exercise and diet. Looking better physically is also a nice bonus, but, more importantly, you FEEL better. And women notice.
Also, promise never to post a thread like this again. I am not saying this to be mean. But, posting these threads just keep these negative and toxic thoughts in your head. Obviously, race matters. But, you, nor I, nor anyone, on this board can change that. Posting here will not help you surpass this limitation you have set upon yourself. You are only digging a deeper hole by fixating on this issue and you are going to end up burying yourself if you don't start pulling yourself out of it NOW!
Seriously, don't try to game right now. I don't think you can handle the rejection. You need to improve yourself: work out, eat better, read, study, learn an instrument, write a novel...whatever. Make yourself higher value, to use a rather infelicitous term commonly bandied about on this board. Then, you will start seeing yourself as an accomplished, worthwhile person living his life to the fullest. And ultimately, that is the most important thing. The Dali Lama has never had a woman in his life, is very much still a virgin, but has lived a dynamic, full, and meaningful life. Don't get hung up on sex...it is not the most important thing. Living a full life matters most.
Gain perspective: I suggest reading "What the Buddha Taught" by Walpola Rahula. I am not a hardcore buddhist, and a lot of the theology is nonsense, but the Four Noble Truths say a lot.
Basically, the Four Noble Truths are: (1) life is suffering, (2) suffering comes from obsessive attachment, (3) to eliminate suffering, one must eliminate obsessive attachment, and (4) one can only eliminate obsessive attachment by living a life of moderation that eschews hedonism and asceticism.
In essence, this is the whole thing about one-nitis. Don't obsess about an individual girl. Don't obsess about sex. Don't obsess about being a virgin. Obviously, pursue girls and sex: these are natural cravings that the male body needs to satisfy, much like we crave water when thirsty and food when hungry. But, don't make sex the monomaniacal goal of your life. Always maintain perspective that sex is just a fraction of what makes your life fulfilling.
Other books to read: The Death of Ivan Ilyich by Leo Tolstoy and This Is Water by David Foster Wallace. Both give great practical advice about living life. Below is DFW making his This Is Water speech.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5THXa_H_N8
This has turned out to be a much longer post than I intended. But Paramount, I hope you understand that life is more than picking up girls. Girls come, and girls go, but what really matters in life is having developed your mind, your body, and your spirit to an apogee of excellence. Work on that first, and the girls will come eventually.
CHAT
