I'm trying to overcome it by asking a lot of people directions for random places, I'm not nervous at all when I do that now but when I think of using an opinion opener or direct opener I freeze up and don't want to do it. My question is what steps did you take to overcome your AA and how many times have you got extremely embarrassed doing it?

hey nate i used to have a LOT of AA, like i go to clubs and bars and not approach a single set.
what i need to do is "warm up" and be in the talktive state. Like if u go out and meet women, but before u did that u just stayed home and played games. If u went out u'll be out of state and will have massive AA.
So ya asking for directions is good to start, then next step would make the interaction longer and then u can go for an opinion or direct when u feel more comfortable.
But when u start, talk to the girls that u arent attracted to and that will lower ur aa.
Obv approaching the first set to an HB 9 ull have AA, but approach a 6 or 7 and have fun then go for the 8,9,10s.
hope it helps

I think you have problems with opinion openers because you know it is weird to ask a shopping girl "who lies more, men or women ?". And you know what ? You are right. It is weird. Even if a HB10 stops me on the street to ask me this, I would be looking at her like "what the fuck ???". Maybe it is better to be honest and tell her you think she is cute/hot. There is nothing weird about that. You only have to learn to deal with rejection in that way.

Anyway, you can also pretend you are having a survey and ask her if you could borrow a minute of her time and ask her some relation related question.

Hey Nate

The answers made by tnchn66 and Lionel are completely correct. Starting with 6 or 7s (even lower maybe) and working your way up is a great way to beat AA.

A big reason we get AA is fear of rejection. One way to eliminate that would be through starting conversations, and pushing it to the limits so that we do in fact get rejected on PURPOSE.

You want to do this in such a way that doesn't offend her, but in some sense turns her off towards you. You could make compliments, and try to push it further, but not to the point where she slaps you. The goal is to get rejected, or have the conversation end prematurely.

You won't feel embarrassed, because your intention in the first place was to get rejected. Practicing this will give you a feel on how conversations with different people fizzles out, therefore preparing you better for disappointment, which is always a possibility no matter how good you get at picking-up girls.

Hope this helps,

Max

What the other guys are talking about is something called "systematic desensitization" where you slowly work your way into the target area you are having trouble with. Perhaps one of the easiest ways to conquer any fear or anxiety you may have. Many individuals knock the idea, but it is perhaps the best way to address any fear that you may have. With that being said, you must be fairly consistent with this approach and work diligently. Results only come after exposing yourself significantly to the "target anxiety". By building new experiences you will lessen your anxiety with the given situation and deal with it more effectively in the future.

There is nothing to be ashamed of. Plenty of men have anxiety of beautiful women. It is a natural instinct. It takes some time getting used to. That is why many advocate, go out and do. I actually agree with this tenant of PUA. Go out and form new memories based on a new set of beliefs. And slowly “sensitize” yourself to beautiful women. If you do this, you’ll be alright with women in no time, trust me.

The only way to conquer a fear is by confronting it.

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It might be hard at first, but that only means you're making progress.

Hello friend : )
well should I start?
first of all don't be afraid of making an idiot of Your-self (don't care what Other may think) this is pointless. The truth its harsh, no stranger actually cares about so DONT CARE OF THEIR OPINION.
2ndly I good idea would be to get to the talkative state before approaching, just like i do before i go to the Job interview etc. just talk with someone about B.S. like with the secretary or someone who sit You. Your friends or a Barman in the Club talk to everyone talk to man ask them is the music here always so bad .. have fun..
finally remember to practise and DO WHAT YOU ARE AFRAID OF every time You can.
I know You might be thinking its easy to say, but this is the ONLY way. If she rejects You tell her out laud "I thought You were more fun" or something like that not offensive, just make her feel that she lose something.
Hope I helped,
If You have more questions just PM me.
Tom