Hey guys. This is going to be a little long and I probably should've asked for help earlier, but I tried using what I've read and so far it's been good but now I'm stuck and need help. I'm gonna throw this out there and hope I get some advice.

A few weeks ago the very first time I tried chatting up any girl on POF, an HB8, we went from POF IM to msn within an hour. I was ecstatic cuz she was the very first girl I tried to contact, and so far the only girl that I've had any real contact with but I'm still keeping an abundance mindset.

I was working nights and she stays up late so we chatted and developed pretty good rapport over three nights. We made plans to meet up for dinner a few saturdays ago so when I gave her my number over msn she asked if I had BBM and suggested we start off from there. On the day we were supposed to meet up, I sent her a text asking if we're still on. She replied that she was tired and asked if we could do it another day cuz she wanted to nap, but also said that if she woke up early we could go for coffee. Thinking to myself this was a possible shit test, I acted indifferent and just said "Sure, that's cool." I had dinner with buddies and went clubbing that night but no text from her at all. Whatever, it's all good.

We chat more on BBM over the next few days and one night around midnight I was trying to make plans to meet up for dinner and a movie when she suddenly asks me to go karaoke. The place she suggested was open until 2am so we decided to go there. We meet up around 1am. She is so cute in person, even though she was just in sweats in and a hoodie, and I was pretty much wearing the same thing. I admit I was looking a little scrub cuz I didn't have a chance to shave. I shake her hand, lots of eye contact and we go in. We go get a private room just for the two of us, and she sits on one sofa and I sit on the other. She starts singing all these mushy love songs and so do I. I didn't really try any kino and it was hard to talk cuz we took turn singing alone or duets. We finish, split the bill, and had a smoke in the parking lot. Things were going good telling her DHV stories. I asked her if she wanted to get something to eat but she said that she was still full. The people working at the karaoke place came out to the parking lot and said we have to leave as they had to close the gate. HB said let's call it a night and got in her car. As we were driving home, I texted her to follow me to this place to grab eats but I get she didn't notice cuz she turned right when I turned left. She later responded she that she was home soon so she declined.

This is where it gets confusing... That same night while I was waiting for my food, our chat on BBM and her contact info disappeared! It's like she deleted me. Before we joked about this essay I was going to write for her, so when I saw her online on msn later when I got home I said, "So I guessing I don't have to worry about that paper anymore..." thinking that she deleted me on purpose. No reply.

"Whatever. Next...", I thought but a few days later her contact info popped up again on my blackberry so I sent her a text. She re-added me and said that her blackberry crashed and all her contacts got deleted. Playing it cool i just said that I thought my singing was so bad that she deleted me. She said no it wasn't and that i sang pretty good. Things seem back on track.

Last week she told me she was going to have a girls night out this past saturday for her bday. On Saturday I texted her and told her she should come down to X club cuz 2 of my buddies were DJ-ing and I might do a set too, and that I could get her and her friends in with no line up and cover (trying again for DHV). No response until the next day. I told her it was a good time dancing to old school hip hop. She said she loves old school, but she doesn't like clubbing anymore cuz there are too many "youngens".

Now, I've read that it's best to ask a girl out when texting/chatting at the high point of the conversation. I don't see her on msn lately so we can't have a smooth continuous chat, and the whole text game is hard to build up momentum as sometimes we both don't reply right away.

I haven't texted her since this past sunday to seem not needy, but I really wanna see her again. So finally, here are my questions to you...

1) Back at the karaoke place, should I have made a move? I didn't wanna come off as a creep so I played it safe. My buddy thinks she was DTF cuz he thinks what girl would meet a guy at 1am, sing mushy songs all alone together in a room?

2) Should I just send her a text out of the blue inviting her out? Like "Let's go for dinner and drinks next Tuesday."

3) What would be the best way or time to get her number?

4) Sometimes she uses my name in texts, like "Thanks for the invite John!" or "Have a good night John". Does that mean anything? I'm not used to anyone using my name in any text cuz obviously the text is between us.

Sorry for the long rant and thanks if you read this far.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated!

I'm not trying to be a dork, or knock you in anyway. If I was in your situation, I'd go out and get phone numbers from four other women, and forget about her.

I hear what you're saying and I'm already working on others online and in person.

It's just that I'd like to get to know her better and she might be gf material, not just about the f-close.

She hasn't totally blown me off yet, so why not keep pinging her and see what happens, right?

The old me would only be focused on her and acting like a true AFC, but I'm starting to come into my own and trying to evolve.