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In my experience if you try for your way it's not going to work out. She still wants to hang out with you, you said she doesn't want to see other people, so she's "yours" regardless of what label you put on it. Ride this one out on her terms for a while and see what happens.

I've tried to escalate things and label relationships in the past only to loose some really great women. Try to run things on her terms and see where it ends up. Worst case scenario she becomes a good friend.

You initiated the "DTR" talk (i.e. the Define The Relationship talk). Don't do that.. it just makes you come off as needy and/or insecure. Let the girl do that part. They LOVE that part. If she's into you.. then she definitely would have. Especially if you see her every day and act all boyfriend-like.

Are you familiar with the concept of push/pull? You need less pull, more push.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wolf

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1 - She didn't wanna be exclusive, so don't feel bad about it. You didn't actually cheat.

2 - Sometimes not mentioning things works on your behalf

3 - If she finds out, then you can say she didn't wanna be serious and shit happened. Just don't talk to her about your relationship, lay low on the topic. If you bring it up agian and then she find out, you look like a snake.

Also I agree with everyone. Fight the urge to hang with her daily, don't call as often, dont be as invested, be busy. This will make her realize she misses you.

I would personally not tell her about banging the other girl, it's slippery slope territory. Just pretend like it didn't happen. If it's addressed by her, do number 3.

Lying is morally wrong, but when you did nothing wrong, telling someone you something you feel quilty about is stupid. She will think you are even more into her because you told her. Most likely will scare her off more.

I do feel really bad and I hate that I let it happen, do you think I should ever bring it up down the line or never bring it up ever?

For the most part, the ability to be discreet about ones sexual activities is a quality that women find attractive. Be a MAN and bear the weight of your guilty conscience silently. Don't bring it up.

-Wolf

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It's good that you told her in the way that if anything ever does happen down the line... she know's you are honest.

IMO Best thing to do would be to give her a bit of space to think about where she wants to take it from here - if she does want to continue it, you need to make it clear that she can't resent you for it later on down the track and she needs to understand that by not 'defining' your relationship, has partly led to this, not just you stuffing up.

If she tells you that you need to earn her trust back, make sure she doesn't expect too much from you. Watch she doesn't start manipulating you because of what has happened if you keep seeing her.

Or.. give her a free pass for a night..

is that a bad thing ?

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