Hey what's up guys? I've been reading/thinking PUA for about 3 months. One aspect that i paid the most attention to was body language..so now as i am out and about....i am becoming more and more natural in raeding people's body language and observing two ppl interacting or myself for that matter..and pretty fucking positive on how the interaction is going based on body language alone.

When all this PUA knowledge is concerned with myself in the field...there's times where i actually have the stages going on in my head and what not. But a lot of the time i feel that i dont even have time to think when to do what. I'm too consumed in keeping the conversation from reaching a lull that i really can't recall how my body language was...or after the interaction ill realize how i could have esculated the conversation so much better with their keywords, etc. The only response i can think of is practice...although i've never gone out with the sole purpose of sarging, i have had a decent amount of social practice. Any tips on how to keep your head straight and not "lose yourself"? Thank u for reading.

Actually, the biggest thing is indeed practice, because with practice comes calibration. It's the tough way to learn, but it's the only real way to learn. You have to learn to calibrate, which comes from repeatedly crashing and burning.

Also, you CAN put SOME strategic pauses into the convo, and watch her body language while you do. At the right times, pauses will build tension, and thus attraction. So, try that out. It might help you.

hey L.A. can you give an example of one of these pauses?? Not quite seeing how you suggest doing that

thanks!

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Sure . . .

You: Hey babe, I need you to . . . (pause)
Her: What?
You: Go get me a drink.

or,

You: You are so . . . (pause)
Her: So what?
You: Cute. Just so cute.

or,

You: Didn't your mom ever tell you . . . (pause)
Her: Tell me what?
You: Nevermind, get over here and kiss me.

Just some examples. You can use the pause in a lot of ways.

got it! thanx bro... thats actually a pretty good tip.. i like that

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I know what you are saying about keeping in the mindset whilst on a night out - the night can fly by without thinking about all the game you intended to try out.

I think that is ultimately how it should work once everything is internalised and becomes second nature.

If you are having a good night then I'd just say go with the flow. But maybe if you're not getting anywhere with girls then take 5 mins out to read a cheat sheet or have a look round the room and get your head back in gear.