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so my tutor (holds small classes that supplement the main lectures - a course requirement to attend) is smoking... realistically not a 10 but in my mind she is.
anyhow, i hit her up after the first class getting tips for something, and she knows im around the top of the class in marks.
she added me on facebook and we've been sending private messages back and forth for weeks, nothing suggestive, just jokes and stories and whatnot
anyhow, class is over for the year and we still sending messages every couple of days, she even offered to let me get heaps of tv shows off her computer at some stage (apparantly has heaps of the various series i wanna watch).
heres where it gets tricky, shes around 28/29 while im 23, and she has a boyfriend (who is probably 30-35).
also, there is the possibility the messages dont point to anything other than her being very friendly, although at the very least i know she likes me as a person.
whats my play here? do i try and escalate this somehow? she gave me heaps of help so im gonna drop some chocolates/wine off at her door sometime, although i prob will just leave them at the door with a note and not knock (since she has a boyfriend, dunno if i should be sticking around with gifts). also ill get some tv shows off her sometime so that could be another opportunity
Never buy gifts it telegraphs romantic intrest and puts the power back in her hand.
The best thing to do is do is go out with her to a comfortable location for a private "study session". Dont offer to buy the food or drinks if you go to a bar. Research the place your going to see if there is anything intresting about the place you could talk about meet the people who work there including the manager and get on a first name basis with the people who work there. This location is going to be your den your lair this is your thunderdome and your mad max. When she shows up talk about what you need to work on for whatever class your in so she thinks this is a real study session. Then start to change the subject get her opinion on something from a female point of view (this is your opener) except without the time constraint but make sure you root it. Then neg her and disqualify yourself as a romantic intrest. if you agree with her opinion on your opener find something you dont like about her outfit and neg it.
e.g. I totally agree with you (her opinion on your opener) too bad you dress like you fell into a thrift store bin. note: your delivery MUST be with a smile it MUST seem like a joke. Practice in front of a mirror or a friend you trust. Second note: If she really does look like she shops at thrift stores find a particular item of clothing or accessory that you dont like and neg that and disqualify yourself. Touch whatever article of clothing you want to neg (kino) and explain your reasoning. Whatever article of clothing you neg make sure when you intiate kino it doesnt seem sexual that it is brief and try and use hand gestures when you give your explaination so it seems that the kino you just did was a part of you using your hand gestures.
or if you dont agree with her opinion or if she is unable to answer your opinion opener. wow im glad your not my girlfriend. Then just do the exact opposite you love her outfit. Point out and touch what item you particularly like why you like it and again use your hand gestures to explain why you like it.
From there the conversation should escalate your gonna need to draw out her emotions by getting to the core of who she is. Use one of the personality test excercises particulary one that will allow her to learn something new about herself.
If your test proves accurate explain how you always knew she was that type of person just from the look of her and her energy ( this is your mystical bond that only you and her share )and how great you think she is. If the test is inaccurate explain that the test is stupid and start telling her how when you first saw her you thought of her as.....blah blah blah (whatever you say should be the opposite of the test results or the parts of the test that were inaccurate).
Important: This is an express guide you need to callibrate always if her body language is turning negetive at any part of these steps try and bring it back to the study session.
How to intiate a sexual encounter: Find a way to talk about the content of her place or your place. Focus on a particular item and give a reason why she must see this item in your place or why you need to see this item in her place. Always also make your place or her place a stop while on the way to another neutral territory like a party or something.
E.g.
You:You know whats great after a study session?
HB: what?
You: Drinks/Food i know a great place but before we go how about you show me/ i show you (item) Im really curious to see this item / Your mind will totally be blown once you see this (item) its on the way.
If you have done every thing up to this point and your back at her place or your place show her the item or have her show you her item. Then drop the hammer on her by staring into her eyes and hitting her with a compliment about a particular body feature you like. If you think you can get a kiss ( this is callicration) tell her how pink, lushious, full her lips are how you never noticed it until just now. If you want to play it safe try complimenting something else it could be her eyes hands anything except her ass or tits. Make sure your delievery is ALWAYS with a smile and with constant eye contact. try and touch the area with your hands. If its her feet make sure she is sitting down obviously since you dont want to break eye contact.
note: If you got here and you need me still to explain what happens next have a friend perform an inhouse labotomy because you dont deserve that frontal lobe.
Final note: Callibrate Callibrate MOTHERFUCKING CALLIBRATE i cannot stress that enough. You dont want to telegraph romantic intrest by moving too fast you want her to get comfortable moving from one stage of attaction to the next. If it takes 2 study session so be it. Because before you know it she wont "remember" she had a boyfriend or she will start trying to scuttle that relationship quick.
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