Ok ive been trying to make my mine up and here are some questions you can help me answer.
Does a true one girls really exist?
Can she come early in your life sit out you trying new girls?
Do you have to fight for a girls love if she is purposefully putting you through test and you are not dating her?
Would you fight for a girl you truely think she still loves you and you still Love her?

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Risktrump

Look over all of your questions and ask yourself what they all have in common.


Do you know what the answer is?

THEY ARE ALL BULLSHIT THAT COMES FROM LOVE SONGS AND HOLLYWOOD MOVIES!!!

The answer to all of them is a resounding "NO!"

I agree with Sidnne, thinking like this will make you whipped and miserable. The harm in this thinking is that it creates a false sense of scarcity. Guys start thinking that the girl they are with is "special" and "the only girl for them." Then they worship the ground she walks on, get beta-ized and then get cheated on when they stop being attractive to the girl (because, to quote Ferris Bueller, "you can't respect somebody who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work.")

There are many, many fantastic women out there. You don't have to settle for the first one that comes along. You can always walk away and find a different one. It's this kind of thinking that makes people stay in miserable relationships / marriages long after the point of no return.

-Wolf

100% agree with Wolf and Sidnne. There is no "one girl" for you.. there are many girls who will suit you in different ways and your opinions/desires will change as you get older.

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Some people are like slinkys, not really good for anything but make you smile when you push them down the stairs.

Any girl can be your one girl...IMO

Love is a beautiful relationship. It has to be maintained very carefully to maintain the beauty of the relation. A perfect lover is one who is good when the couple is in public and great when the two are only amongst themselves. He has to be a great lover not only in their daily routine but also in bed. There is a very fine line between sex and love making. Becoming a good lover is more than having good carnal relations with someone, but also something much more deeply penetrating, love at one of its most intimate moments. Enjoying that intimate moment with your partner and making the best of it is a sign of a great lover. If you too wish to be a great lover the tips given by our PUA expert will help you do so.

Know the likes and (many times dislikes being more important) the dislikes of your partner. Learning likes and dislikes goes further than just in bed. Even when you are intentionally stepping outside of normal bedside manner, don't go outside of what you know for sure someone would accept or is comfortable with.
Accept criticism sportingly and ask her if she is satisfied. Try to find out your partner likes or dislikes about you. Either you question her directly or try to find out yourself by experimenting and exploring. Try not to get upset with the things you may learn as they are only telling you because they trust and love you.

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PUA

Well, there is such thing as love, and it is when you are attracted to someone in a very high level, therefore, you can "love" many women, as long as you are highly attracted to them.
thinking there is only one girl for you will make you act like a doormat around her and she WILL lose all respect.

Well think like that.. There are app 3,5 billion women out there.. So..
I didn`t understand 2nd question, srry :/
You don`t fight, you learn how to react to this tests.. And yes, girls are CONSTANTLY putting you through tests.. In the interaction with a certain girl, 50% of it are tests..
And the last question.. Yes.. But you must be careful and consider if you can take the rejection-it is one of the possible outcomes.. Rocky said:.. Life isn`t about how hard you can hit, but how hard can you get hit and keep movind forward.. I don`t know if you understood my point here.. But all in all, yes to this last question

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There are no lesbians, just women who never met Sid.

I was the alpha of the alpha male by nature in my social circle. Cool, dominant, fearless, in short a real man. Girls would flock to me but I used to think ''girls are a waste of time for a guy like me'' :yaoming face:. I became a doormat for my gf when I started truly loving her, thinking that she was my only one I started giving her ''exclusive access'' to my ''flexible'' personality.
She lost interest and she cheated. I love(d) her but it immediately awakened the real man when she cheated, she is not a ''VIP'' anymore, and Ive learnt a lot from that experience, but I got back with her before ''waking up the real man'' and now Im stuck between those two natures depending on my mood at that moment, she was/is my first girlfriend, we dated for 4 years since I was 16.
I dont want to give her up and i dont want to be with her. I wish I could move on easier, but I dont want to and I dont want her. If I had found this forum 1 year ago, everything would be different for me. Ive let many girls get too close to me if you know what I mean, which would hurt my gf greatly, but I just dont care anymore, and I can say I could be happy with many of them.

i'm not even sure i believe in "love"

i think to most people, "love" is a novelty

it's something that makes them feel all tingly inside

but when push comes to shove

it rarely takes precedence over:

- attraction
- desire
- instinct
- self interest
- etc

if love exists, in most cases, it's pretty fucking weak

idk

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I see a lot of emotionally unavailble ppl here lol