Current situation: I am a 20 yr old korean student attending a uni. A few nights ago my frat had a social with a sorority and this black girl (call her steph) started a conversation (just a regular convo, no attraction), but I wanted to try and seduce her. Here is how everything played out. The social was a anything but clothes party.


She is next to me and she says "I feel like I've seen you around." I reply "No way! Where'd you live last year." We go on and talk about how we might have seen each other. Throughout the conversation I listen to her and I follow up with questions that has to do with what we talk about. Eventually I just run out of questions and we end up in an awkward situation...eventually me turning away in awkwardness...



So here's what I was thinking while asking her questions and listening to her talk:

"I should just interrupt her and ask her opinion on something"
^this didnt work because i couldnt think of anything to ask.


"She talked about her work and her major, so I wanted to say 'hey i remember when I took that class, it was pretty hard cause its a lot of reading (i fucked up here already.. i know). And then awkward laughs proceeded and I knew I failed so I turned away and kicked rocks... LoL.

In any case, any advice? or any thoughts to what I thought I should have said? How do improve my awkward conversations..? I know once I can start holding a conversation it would improve my confidence to a new level.



^_^ mr44

man i have that SAME PROBLEM! Sucks doesn't it?

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What's an "anything but clothes" party?

Women love to talk about themselves. Use her responses to create more conversation.

Example: You- "What was your major?"
Her- "Psychology"
You- "Ahh, so you specialize in mind f*cking people. Sweet career path."

The best conversationalist are always the best listeners.

while i'm throwing cheesy quotes, here's another one "Fools wait for their turn to talk, wise people wait and listen."

The bad news is, your terrible at conversing with her because your not listening to what she is saying.

The good news, it's easy to fix. First, I highly recommend buying the book, What Every Body Is Saying by Joe Navarro, who has 25 year experience working with the FBI on specifically reading people.

The second is How to make friend and influence people by Dale Carnegie, which sets the cornerstone's of not just having good conversations but being an amazing person to be around.

I promise you, if you read those two books and actually apply what is being said, your conversation skills, as well as your GAME will improve dramatically.

Sam