Hey guys

so i said to this girl on friday:

Me: "you doing anything on saturday"
HB8: "nope"
Me: "now you are. you're inviting me for something to eat while watching the spain match"
HB8: "great I'd love to!"

(by the way got that from this website)

Sooooo texted her this morning that i would be at Diversia (where we watch the game and have dinner, its kind of a mall) at 7 that she should come... no answer... should i text again? cause if she aint saying anything im going with my friends to another place to watch it... what should i do? if i text her again what should i put? bare in mind i prefer to be with her than going out with the colleagues

This girl goes to my school so i would be seeing her on monday.. if you tell me not to text her, what should i tell her on monday?

thanks guys! i need an answer ASAP the saturday mentioned is today!!

don't text her, if you do you look like your chasing which is not good, if the girl knows she can have you whenever you get put to the back of her to do list. Tell your boys that you may come but it will be last minuit wait the day if she doesn't text go out with the guys

At school on Monday ask her whats up, say something like "what happened you you?" and act a little disapointed in her

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sweet thanks.

about the looking like im chasing her, thats what i was thinking about. the thing on what to do on monday i had not thought of. i will do that. thankyou sooo much!

why didnt you call her on the phone???

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I just didn't.. thought about it.. i was just coming from my soccer game and i just didnt do it..

should i have done it? it might have sounded to pressure-y. i hoped she would answer.. anyways she has fame of not answering her phone either a text or a call so im not taking it personally.

by the way, on monday, should i say something like: "i was looking forward to it"

No its not wrong that you texted, just as a personal preference I always call instead of texting to schedule a hang out,


if you would have got her voicemail you could have alluded to the fact that you have other options tonight and that although you wanted to hang out with her tonight if you dont hear from her soon you are going to go with a different option...

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i was planning on saying that now on the text i would have sent.. but i prefer to just talk to her on monday.. i still have doubts though, i really want to hang out with her

yea... see exactly you now have to send an additional text to say if you dont hear from her soon you will just go with a different option. Now I see this as placing more pressure on the girl than had you just initially called and when you got her voicemail said it all at once on one call.

See what I mean? You could just leave it as is and wait until monday to talk to her.. no harm in that, there will be other opportunities to hangout with her. ALso, when you see her monday make sure you tell her how awesome the game was..

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OK.. well learnt the lesson.. on monday i will say that haha, worst of it is that she will probably just stay at home (i know her pretty well).. you know anything i could do like surprise or something? if not no problem, ill just go with the guys to watch it with them.

any further advice on what to do next/what i should have done?

I wouldnt even mention it to her. Unless i read it wrong she didnt show? Or the time of the meeting hasnt come yet?

If she didnt show just go about things like any other day, if she mentions it say you didnt even notice, you and some buddies went somewhere and you completely forgot.

If it hasnt happened yet i htink you and your buddies should goto the location you told her you would be at, wait maybe 30-60 mins and if she doesnt show roll out. this way if she does show without responding, your there and it will DHV you to seperate from your buddies to hang with her. If she shows and your not there...owch.

Just my take hope it helps

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i sent a message this morning id be there at 9ish, that she should come to watch the game (after the conversation put in the first post that took place yesterday) so it hasnt happened yet, but im convinced she wont show up. im planning on sending her a text saying that i will be with friends at the bar x at x time, that she should tell me if she's coming. now that im writing it it doesnt sound as a good idea AT ALL. HELP how can meeting with a friend (for now) be so difficult!! i wanna be with her!

by the way what if i see her online in facebook? (possible knowing her)? or what if she talks to me on facebook?

The reason why it is soo hard is because you are trying. Remember that if you have done things right, and are not getting what you want from a women, freeze them out.

In other words you should only ask one time, if they flake on you do something else, act like it didnt phase you because hey! you got plenty of friends and plenty of things to do with your time.

Then you can set another "date" up and neg her about her flaking out before. Ask once and only once, if she no shows then tell her your time is important and you have other friends who show up to plans they make, and you dont associate with people who cannot hold plans.

The problem could be that you did not game her enough and she isnt ready to go out. You could possibly have blown the set, and it sounds like you might have one itis, so go game 12 other girls to get over her. She is not a delicate or unique snowflake.

Hope this helps

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If she talks to you thats fine, you can either freeze her out a bit and take a while to respond, or you can simply respond. Just remember that the more needy and "wanty" you come accross as the less intrested she will be.

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Helps a lot. Will take carful attention to every word, especially the one that i haven't gamed her enough. i've kinoed her, im ok with negs (although have no idea how to neg her in that situation) but ill keep at it this week, there's a party next saturday so i have to have to do something there. i do have one-itis, so ill take care of that also