Okey guys, really need help on this one.
There is a girl that Im in love with. So it is hard to play -.-

We are sort of dating / casual sex, in sort of opened relationship.
Today I found out that she "likes" someone else too.
After conversation with her and a friend of hers I found out that she actually really likes us both but cant decide. I didnt mind her being with other guys but since there are emotions involved I said that I give her 3 weeks in which she has to decide or Im calling it.
Theere is only one major thing she likes on him more than on me is that he is more "man-like"

How badly I fucked it up already and what s the game plan in these 3 weeks?
How much attention to give her and how to demonstrate that I am a more of alpha than he is without trying too hard?

HELP ME PLEASE.

Give her one week and then fuck her friend.

Okey. I like it.

Anything serious anyone?

This is confusing. You don't mind her being with other guys but you have a problem because there are emotions involved? What, were you a machine the rest of the time you got laid and just now got a conscious?

Anyways, hate to say it, but you issued an ultimatum. That pretty much means you lost. Even if you were the alpha, you're the demanding alpha. People in general have a disdain for demands.

About the only thing I can think of to help with your current situation is to create a "more legitimate" reason as to why you gave her three weeks. You need a way to make it seem like the ultimatum was given for an actual reason, not just for its own sake. And that reason has to somehow make it seem like she's the ultimate benefactor in some way. So in some way she's winning by choosing you within the next three weeks.

Then you don't even need to worry about alpha, you are showing a legitimate interest in her, which is a good foundation for a relationship.

First you need to go about your life, you should always come first before anyone besides God, if your religious.

I agree with SmexiBoi, I personally wouldn't give a girl an ultimatinum, I've exprienced trying that way to many times and came off afc and needy.Understand that people build off emotion and not logic. You cant force someone to be with you, so It wouldn't make sense to give her a ultimatinum. I would ask her what she sees in this guy and be assertive and firm when asking. Don't criticize the guy either, it would make you seem jealous. I know what I would do in your situation though.

Also to me it seems like this girl got bored or afraid, it happens. Stop giving to her attention, girls love attention and you take that away and they start to wonder why it's gone. Remember you have your own life to attend to, the world doesn't revolve around her.

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Just Like Chess I know the Rules-- And I bet I Checkmate her in like 4 moves--Trey Songz
Not Every girl is going to be instantly attracted to you it is what you do that makes them attracted to you.

Seriously.... Tell you Fuck off and shag someone else and grow a pair....
She will respect you more for it and u have get her then ....


All this you have 3 weeks to decide whos cock u want is soooooo Beta ..... fuck her right off Now ....

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I have to agree with the idea of just moving on..

It will hurt and when you haev feelings for someone- and can´t stop thinking about them then it sucks hardcore but do it.

Move on dude- you might be a week trying to forget her but you will get there.
No mobile text messages, or phone calls --. and actively now make moves on other girls no matter how badly it works out.

from RSD but just love it---

"You are a winner and there is no competition"

Ty very much guys. This is gold to me.

I am not sure about letting go to be honest since she seemed afraid to lose me after I found out and thanked me to give her a chance on deciding. o.O

My plan will be to not give her much if any attention. Set 1-2 date in this time and fuck her once or twice.
Also will not mention ultimatum again and will ask her friendly about the other guy.
Otherwise, also got dates planned with other girls already but this girl is just too cute to let go + im in love with her -.- sux balls for game

Ty again.

M-kay.
I decided to play it rough XD

Picked up a girl she really hates today and got invited on her "private" party tomorrow. LoL

thats a perfect move, gaming a girl she hates.

i didn't read the whole post, but giving a girl 3 weeks to decide if she wants you or not, seems very nooby/AFC. When she wants to fuck other guys, let her do her thing and have her fun.

i really hope you now know the basics of 'gaming', because it improves your life value big time.