So I met this girl at a bar about 2-3 weeks ago. When I first met her we were both all over each other on the Kino Scale. Although we were never able to actually kiss, just loads of touching. I ended the first night by getting her number and walking her and her cousin to a cab.

A couple days passed and I started texting her a bit to build comfort, invited her for a sunset once, general date, met some resistance at first but after awhile she agreed to a date. She met me at this little "party" that was in town, we had a couple drinks there then headed out to get some coffee, once again the kino was good but I could tell I was going to have to work for the kiss. Anyways night goes on, kino is strong, night ends at her place, kiss a few times, get her on her bed, but because I am a fucking idiot I listened to her when she said for literally the 100th time in a 20 mins span "I've got to get to bed". I knew right after I shut the front door behind me that I fucked up but w/e. Live and learn.

So after that I try to stay in contact with her but I get nothing, no responses to my text, calls ect.. I only try a couple times then leave it be and figured I would move on.

Now tonight, for some reason outa the blue I decided to hit her up (5 days since I last tried) and within 2 mins of sending the text "hey wattup?" I get a response "I just broke up with my BF". Now, I knew that she had a BF, he lives a few hours away and judging by the way she was talking the relationship wasnt going to last long. So it wasnt a surprise to me.

So I responded back with the only thing that I could think of "sorry, thats always rough. We should do something to take your mind off of it." and then nothing, no response. So I waited about 15 mins and decided to call her, no answer...

So WTF is up? This girl was quick to tell me that she just broke up with her BF, the reason why she didnt want to have sex with me after the first date, even though she admitted that she wanted to and would. So why wouldn't she respond? How should I handle this?

You should have waited for her to respond and not called her. She was probably thinking it over and wasnt going to pick up without having decided how she was going to talk to you. Now you look a little desperate. I'd just wait, if shes interested shell text or call you back.

ye once I heard the first ring I was like "oh shit, bad call" but I was driving when this all happened and wasnt thinking fully. Got too excited about having another shot with this girl.

I am going to let it go for a bit, give her some time to get over it, hope that she calls or texts back first. I know that she was into me on the date, squeezing my hand, holding me tight, kissing me like she hadnt been kissed on a long time.

I know that if I could get a chance to see her again I can pull it through to the f-close. But I think its going to be a challenge to get that second date going.

How long should I wait before I try to contact her again? She knows that I am into her, but she also knows that I have a large social circle and am not desperate. She even made a comment when I was with her about me knowing everyone in town. So I feel like I can play that angle a bit (if that makes sense).

In both cases (on the bed and after the breakup), your problem is that you weren't as "take charge" as you needed to be. You know the problem on the bed, and you've learned. Awesome. Just duplicate the lesson to the texting.

You should have told her "Hey, I'm at place X. Come on down, so we can talk." A girl is always affected by a break up because women are fantasizing creatures. She has already fantasized her wedding and in fact her whole life with whoever she's with, and now she needs to decompile her fantasies, so that she has room for new ones. She needed to talk, so that was a perfect opportunity. I think part of the problem was the wording. Guys decompile thoughts by DOING things, women by TALKING about them.

But again, the bigger issue was beginning assertive. She needs someone to take control, especially after her losing her boyfriend, she'll feel like she has nothing tying her down. Now is not the time if you are looking for a relationship, but tell her you need to talk with her, and have some things to discuss, and she'll probably be glad to vent, and give up a little "revenge booty".

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Jazzy Jeff: "My love for you is like a river,
Like a summer breeze that makes my soul shiver,
One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

Appreciate the response sir. I got a text from her last night at 1:30 saying "sorry, just got your message. I am at a friends house, I had to get out of (insert town name) . Hope you have a good night".

I didn't respond until this afternoon when I said "No worries kiddo, hope it was a fun night. I don't know what my schedule is this week, might be going to mexico. I'll hit you up soon and we can find a time to do something fun together."

I may call her Thursday and ask if she wants to join me in town for a drink to talk or may even invite her to this Halloween event at a amusement park.

Cool. Remember: What she NEEDS is to get this out of her system, and get with another guy. What she WANTS or THINKS she needs is to talk it out of her. Provide the opportunity to do what she wants, then show her what she needs and help her with that.

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Jazzy Jeff: "My love for you is like a river,
Like a summer breeze that makes my soul shiver,
One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

Yea like thedocta said, you dont want to come off as looking desperate or else she will see you as someone who is out to get something materialistic. But nonetheless, just play cool and wait until she decides to come up to you for comfort or just to go out. Then its game on!

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Hey look at that!
What?
That! You dont see it?
No not really....
Oh come on theres nothing i just wanted to talk to you. Whats your name?

So should I just hit her up and tell her that I want to meet up with her to talk? Should I say talk about the break-up? Or just talk?

Talk with her on the hone if possible, then see if you can arrange a date somewhere where you could take her mind off the break up

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Hey look at that!
What?
That! You dont see it?
No not really....
Oh come on theres nothing i just wanted to talk to you. Whats your name?

Exactly. Just talk. Women can be talking about things that seem unrelated, and really, they're working out some issue. They like to distance themselves from problems, men like to involve themselves and try to fix stuff. Don't bring up the break up. At all. If she wants to bring it up, she will, and you can just listen and look attentive.

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Jazzy Jeff: "My love for you is like a river,
Like a summer breeze that makes my soul shiver,
One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

Exactly how TheFeshPrince stated. Fair play sir

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Hey look at that!
What?
That! You dont see it?
No not really....
Oh come on theres nothing i just wanted to talk to you. Whats your name?

Thanks guys! Took your advice..

Took her out for a drink last night, the night before when she told me that she broke up with her BF I thought it was a few days or so in. But apparently he had just left a hour or so after I texted her and it was a 8 month long relationship, so I thought that I was going to be screwed cause it was literally under 24 hours.

I'll skip the details, lots of talking, kino, was able to get a kiss pretty quickly (within the first 20-30 mins) and then after a few hours of walking to dif bars and talking we ended up back at her place. Made-out for a bit, slowly made it more sexual, got her mostly naked, she invited me to stay the night "as long as I was able to cuddle and only cuddle".

It literally took the entire night to get any action. We feel asleep for a couple hours, then woke each other up, I started the kino again, got further, then shut down, fell back asleep, woke each other up, started again, got even further, shut down ect.. It wasn't until the morning when I was able to finger her and get the best handjob of my life (shit i'll take anything with the amount of work I had to put in lol). The girls a massage therapist so her magic hands went to work, but after an entire night of dry humping and touching I was ready to blow and wasn't able to last long (still worked for me haha).

It basically stayed at that level of kino for the rest of the time, I was able to finger her a couple times and she would only use her hands to play with my cock, but after busting the first nut it just wasn't doing it for me. I really dont know what to do with this girl, shes older than me by 7 years (im 21) and I like her. But at the same time idk if I can date someone that much older than me and thats what shes looking for, another relationship.

All of this PUA stuff is becoming much more natural too, I dont need to drink to feel comfortable or myself. Its crazy how much a little pussy can boost your confidence levels lol.

Now I just hope that she doesnt read this somehow

Wow guy great outcome. Way to play it cool. Too bad you didn't fc.. but then again some guys would kill just to get what you got.

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Hey look at that!
What?
That! You dont see it?
No not really....
Oh come on theres nothing i just wanted to talk to you. Whats your name?

Just tell her that you enjoyed "hanging out" last night, and would like to do it again sometime (like in a week or more). But if you don't want a relationship, be upfront and tell her that's not what you're looking for right now. She'll respect the honesty, and it will save you so much trouble in the future. Don't be one of those fools who lies to her to just get some pussy.

You did a great job, man! Good luck in the future, as well!

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Jazzy Jeff: "My love for you is like a river,
Like a summer breeze that makes my soul shiver,
One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

I was kind of up-front with her when we were talking at the bars. She said that she was willing to wait for a bit, but that someone my age could wait around longer than she could. I then changed the subject and left it there. Shes 28 but when I first met her I thought she was 22 tops, when we were messing around I could tell that she wasnt use to everything that I was doing, which I was surprised about. I thought that she was going to top me on the experience scale.

Now I may have fucked up cause after we hooked up I only waited one day. Then texted her to see how things where. After a short convo over text I told her that I wanted to take her out again, and said my only free day was Sunday. So I guess its 5 days since our last date. I told her its a day-date cause I'll be busy that night. So its more casual. Prob doesnt matter, she said that she could "probably make it!" and that she would let me know "when the day gets closer". So IDK, leaving it there, see what happens.