Right, so I have been dating this work colleague for the past week, things have been excellent and I K-closed our second date however, after work she turns around and says "I was thinking that i'd like to get to know you better first, it's just that im new to this and I really wanna take my time :S"..

However before we had gone into work we had talked about not letting anyone know and we both agreed not to talk to each other so it isn't obvious.. work was fine, was the usual and we even had a moment were no1 was around and we told each other we were both doing a good job... I know the saying "Don't eat where you shit" But I'm leaving this job real soon so it doesn't matter but I just don't understand how we rushed?! Can any1 explain?

I would ignore her comment and continue to escalate. Unless you want to hit the friend zone or spend a bunch of time Coquette'ing her i'm not sure what other options you have.

Thanks for the reply mate, I texted her and she talked about how we should still flirt but not kiss yet, So surely she wouldn't be putting me in the friend-zone if she wants to continue flirting.. I think my plan is to set up another date but this time continue to escalate but not as much as I had previously done however I'm not sure K-closing again will be too much :S

always go for the kiss mate... how old is she btw ?!?!

i mean if it was about takin it slow (sex) then fine but kiss wtf ?!?!

ignore her. attack!

We're both 18! I KNOW! Ahh, I'll follow your advice guys but if I get convicted for kiss-rape it's on your heads But seriously, this is kinda ridiculous! Maybe she's just not sure what she wants because when we first K-closed she showed many IOI's definitely more than 3.. Women eh?

the bad news is that a woman can want your attention from being flirty with you but not really be attracted to you. Sad but true , woman are odd creatures

Okay, so I invited her over mine and we had great fun, watched a movie and played the Wii however, while we watched the movie, I did quite abit of Kino and she responded well but when I leant in to K-close, she said she didn't want to do "it", coincidentally we wer watching the movie on my bed and I didn't plan on F-closing at all which is what she was probably thinking I was after ¬_¬ Turns out I was her first kiss on the previous date which explains why she asked to take things slow! So.. do I keep on trecking? or do I actually take things slow but continue light kino??

keep pushing until she resists. If she likes you she will limit your advancement, don't cut yourself short. Her Attraction isn't going to stop because your acting alpha and plowing forward.

Or as someone more experienced but less eloquent used to say

"you never know bro unless you make the ho say no"

I see what you mean dude but I've read other threads aswell with people of the similar situation as me and others are saying I should build more comfort?

sure do both, comfort/rapport and escalation

I sent her a message earlier today that I wasn't after any sex after she had thought that however, she msged me back basically LJBFing me. She said she wasn't used to the Body language (Kino), don't really understand if I should continue and try or if I should just go back to the drawing board... Damn I hate it when I get oneitus

I hate oneitis too man, try to stay away from that shit!

My advice would be to continue what you were doing before, just keep being flirty and keep escalating. She obviously likes something about you and there is potential for you to go far if you play your cards right.

I wouldn't have mentioned the part about you not trying to have sex or whatever, it's kind of an awkward convo, so why even go there? It's not necessary. Don't worry too much about what she might think.. just keep being playful and flirty around her because that's what you want.

She's inexperienced and shy, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't escalate, just do it carefully.. Go for a kiss again when you guys are super close to each other and have some sexual tension in the air.

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the good news is you probably have her confused, because I know im confused. Ive heard sending mixed messages is effective but your pushing the limit here bro. The only thing I would say is you seem to be having a very reactive policy with this chich, and a reactive/responsive policy is a fail with chicks.