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Posting this because 1) the consensus among a bunch of dudes was that I recently fucked up a ONS by ignoring some cues, and 2) poor logistics is a problem in lots of my first dates.
Long story short, this chick is 33, and been chatting her up on match. She said 'yes' to me when I was one of her top matches, then I sent her a message. She's also somewhat religious. She describes the guy she's looking for and it's definitely not me, so my guess is it's totally physical here.. (yeah I know - what they say rarely matches what they want).
She has written me about 6 long, thoughtful messages. I haven't put much thought into any of my replies until now. I asked her to meet and she says 'I'm up for anything' and asks for ideas. She lives about 20 miles away.
So what do you do? I mean I'm tempted to tell her to come out to my hood over the weekend. Or do you do the halfway meetup?
Logistics wise half way sucks cause it's easier for both of you to split and go home. If you are in her neighborhood or yours it's easier to bounce back to one of your places if things start going well. I'd personally take the intiative to go to her and let her show you around in her area. You can always get a movie and head back to her place, or offer to make her dinner, etc. The other reason for this if she's in her local area she's more comfortable and relaxed than if she's 20 miles from home with some new guy, in an area she doesn't know, she's already uncomfortable potentially, and now this guy is getting frisky....
Not saying it's the right answer but its what I would do. The only downfall is you are going to have to rely on her to show you around. Unless you get an idea of what the area is and you can see things down there looking at google maps so you have some bounce locations to do instant dates and continue the night along.
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