I don't have a lot of time so this is going to be short, but if I don't write this now I won't get around to it later.

It is VERY important to answer OKC questions. You should answer as many questions as you can, because it uses the answers to those questions to "match" people. Match % typically means more to the girl than to the guy, but since it's important to the girl, you gotta play the game.

That said, you can choose to have answers displayed publicly. Be extremely careful about which questions you answer publicly. I went through a phase where I was getting massive success on the site. Then I started answering more of the "Sex" questions publicly and my success dropped off. Why? Because women look at your answers. All of them. Women saw my answers to controversial questions, and they also saw that I answered a significant amount of the "Sex" questions compared to other questions. Not only did I take away a lot of the mystery that makes a date exciting to a woman, but her guard goes up when she sees that you are "Very open to sex toys" or that "sleeping with 14 women doesn't seem like a large amount." Even if you want women who are into sex toys, let's say, it still is not advantageous to publicly displayed that. It just comes off as creepy to a majority of the women out there. In general, if there is a controversial question (like questions about how to handle a awkward situation with an ex), do not answer it publicly. I would recommend answer leaving most "Sex" questions private, and only leave open the slam dunk questions that make you seem normal and safe.

I have noticed that a lot of the highest quality women on that site have maybe 4-8 sex questions answered publicly. And I understand why. It's a bit tacky to publicly displayed your sexual preferences for the world to see.

So, the discretion is yours. But I would go through all ofyour questions and ask yourself this: "women have to make a snap judgment about me. is this something that I think will cause women to be reluctant to go on a date with me?"

Ok, gotta go. good luck

Good post! I agree its good to go through the questions and answer a fair bit of them but you want to either skip these or answer them privately. Women who start getting more interested in you are going to study these to see where your differences are. Be careful about what you make public knowledge... Same goes for social networking sites as well.

I would think this be common sense no? Especially with sexual based ones.

Very good post, i myself started sarging on okcupid, sadly my success rate isnt nearly as high as it is on POF...then again there isnt nearly as many people on the site. but some of the questions on there go a bit in depth!

Perhaps answering the masturbation question with "I jerkoff 10x a day" is hurting my chances. And for some reason saying I have fantasies of raping my partner is also a turnoff, go figure!

Damn, I knew I shouldn't have answered those either.

Lol you guys are right to joke; it is common sense. But it wasn't something I really thought about since I only answered a few questions at first (and was having success). I noticed that many women answered almost all of their questions publicly, even the sexual ones, so I thought nothing of it and started answering more questions. BUT, in general it's different for women and men. If women answer their questions openly, it doesn't really affect men's opinion of them (if anything the response is more positive). But women are generally skeptical of online dating and they will find any excuse to write you off. Plus you lose the mystery aspect if you reveal too much.

But yeah, some of the sex questions should obviously not be answered publicly. I knew that before I made this connection. But my point was that even non-sex based questions that are controversial should be left private. Ideally, every women on the site should be able to go through your questions and not once have any sort of negative emotion, ever. And doing that is just about making only the slam-dunk questions public.

Good Advice. We don't care about the girl's response to the sex questions but they care about ours. I had to change some of my answers to private so I don't look a dog. Even though I am chasing the cat .

Positive in what way? A girl making sexual based questions publicly open does affect's guy's opinion of them. If anything it makes them think of the girl in a more sexual way than anything else. Not saying its a good thing, but not sure its a positive either as not sure many girls want to be seen in that way.
In my opinion no sex questions should be answered publicly as it can make girls think you are just looking for sex (not saying this is bad) and can very well lower the number of girls you can close.
Only in an ideal world my friend.

Wonder what the Saudi version of OkCupid is like?

"What's the typical number of times you beat your spouse in a week?

a) Whenever given the opportunity (everytime she opens her mouth)
b) When she leaves cage and moves dog to sleep at foot of bed
c) Till my hands are sore
d) All of the above

Do you recommend answering 0 questions publically then?

I do not. There are some questions that will actually lead to a better match. I think there is a question "Do you believe in God?" or "Are you an Atheist?" I do not believe in God and I do not want to date a woman who is offended by my lack of faith. I want everyone to know my answer to that question and I want to know the answer to the woman's question. Some questions are good ways to match world views, and those type of questions are useful in my opinion.

Another example is: "Are you born the same gender you are now?" Why not answer that question? It is designed to let others know that you aren't weird. A lot of questions only have one right answer: "would you sleep with your cousin?" As a woman checks your questions and all of your answers show normalcy but also a hint of personality, she will be more likely to respond to your message and eventually go on a date with you. That's my opinion at least.

Which brings me to my last point: you don't want to come off like you're hiding something. So, not answering a bunch of Sex questions publicly: that just shows class. Answering no questions publicly is going to make her guard go up.

Cheers.

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