Why are we here? I haven't posted in awhile, but I've discovered a flaw in myself that I know is common within the community.

A large portion didn't get chicks when we were younger so now you are trying to prove a point. However, what is trying to prove a point really doing?

Proving a point is a form of seeking validation, and seeking validation is one of the worst things you can do.


When you seek validation from others it is communicating that your self-value is not high. Essentially saying to people "I have low value and my genes are worthless". A very unattractive action to perform, to those you want to attract, potential employers, friends, classmates etc.

If you are coming in with this mindset, you need to re-calibrate it. I've just picked up on this, and I believe this will make a massive difference.

"A large portion didn't get chicks when we were younger so now you are trying to prove a point. "

- mostly true

"Proving a point is a form of seeking validation, and seeking validation is one of the worst things you can do."

- disjunctive syllogism


When you seek validation from others it is communicating that your self-value is not high

- untrue

Everyone seeks validation if they are not a sociopath. Its how you do it and how you communicate it which is the difference between someone who is taking a productive approach and a needyone

stop generalizing

People are so easy to point-out the flaws in other. Best part is that it's their own.

I got laid lots when I was young, always the best. I don't have sex for validation....maybe straight after a break up.

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