Hey guys, so last thursday night I went to a party with a friend of mine. It was all her friends, I was quickly introduced to everyone and we made friends before going out to a Karaoke bar for the night. There was a HB8 there that was giving me a lot of eye contact over the course of the night and her and her friend were interested in going up on stage with me when I did my karaoke song. Anyway, they had to leave early for whatever reason and I asked for her number saying that we should hang out some time.

She gave me her number. Proceed to the next day and I see that the number was incorrectly entered in my phone and I was missing 1 digit. So, sunday I look her up on facebook since we have many mutual friends and send a friend request that said this

"Hey HB8, I meant to text you but Im' missing the last digit in your phone number. xxx-xxx-xxx_? Anyway, what are you up to this week, want to grab a drink with me wednesday night?"

I sent that message sunday afternoon.

Then monday night I again find myself at the same house, with the same-ish people having a party and then going out to a club. I see her again, she's with that same friend again and we talk for a minute and she asks me if I got to go up and do Karaoke, whatever. At this point, another girl comes up to me who's throwing the party and offers to introduce me to everyone and takes my hand and begins to introduce me to everyone around the house. When I return to continue my conversation, turns out HB8 and her friend left to the club. I wasn't going to the club that night as I had other plans with a girl so I didn't see her further.

Now today she finally accepts my friend request and sends this message back to me

"Heyy! my number is xxx-xxx-xxxx, im not sure about tonight but im sure we'll hang out sometime soon!"

What does this mean? It kinda looks like she's trying to let me down easy in a really round about way, but I'm not sure.

I'm not very experienced in gaming as I used to be fat and didnt' have any confidence to go after girls. So, I don't know what my next move should be, or if I should just move on.

Any help would be appreciated! First time poster =)

Accept her answer. Don't overthink things. Either don't respond or just say "For sure!"

In a week or two invite her out again.

Thanks man. That's what I ended up thinking. I'm not going to respond and then I'll send her a text some time next week on a night when I'm going to a party/bar and see if she wants to come out with me.

Hey guys, so a little update on this girl.

I sent her a text after 2 weeks as follows.

"Hey HB8! It's Impromptu. Tomorrow night me and a bunch of friends (some *shared friends* too) are going to the nog for karaoke. It's gonna be sweet and you should totally come with us. I need a partner for backstreet boys =)"
HER "Lol! I love backstreet boys! Im going tmrw with my friend A shes in *this thing* too! So I'll see you tmrw!"

*at the bar*

"So a bunch of people signed me up for backstreet boys are you down?!"
"Lol sure! Just got here"

From that point later, I saw her breifly, gave her a hug and talked for a while. We were both really drunk and didn't remember too much about the situation as shown from following texts.

Me "Did you end up signing!?"
"Lol no! We had to leave how was bsb?"
"I didn't get to sing BSB again! I guess we got there too late. The rest of the night was a blast though. Did you go somewhere else or retire for the night?"
"We got lost going to mcdonalds, then went to mcdonalds lol"
"Haha that's hilarious!"

5 days later.....

Me "What's cookin' good lookin'?! =P"
her "um who is this?"
"It's Impromptu"
"Lol! Well I just made some KD"
"Wait lol, did you really think I was asking you what you were cooking?"
"Lol, it was just kind of a coincidence haha"
"Haha, got big plans this weekend?"
"I have a midterm this week so im only going out fri to HB7's party bc I have dance class on sat and sun, you?"
"Friday night I'm going to ale and I might stop by HB7's. I'm the same I have hockey Saturday and Sunday but saturday I'm going a surprise party. No midterms for me though :p"

Then that friday I run into her with some friends at a bar. I dance with her and her friends for a while and then leave with my friends to a better bar with more people. I let her know that we're gonna go to that bar and say goodbye.

Later on I run into her with her friend again on the street. We talk for a minute and then both go about our day with the people we were with.
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I'm just wondering like what I should do to try to progress this. The original facebook message seemed a bit too direct or maybe she was just busy. Second time at karaoke kinda failed cause I ended up partying a bit too much with my friends, I spent a good portion of the night with another girl and we didn't see each other much so I didn't have a chance to build attraction with her to get it to some 1on1 time. Also it's kinda weak she didn't put my # in her contact list.

Should I just continue inviting her to fun places that I'm going with my friends? Should I try flirty texts? Or should I just text/call her and be direct and say I want to take her out to lunch or something...

Not really sure what to do, I don't know if the text message log is helpful, but hopefully it wasn't a waste =P

Any advice is great guys, thanks!

To me it seems like you need to step it up, you're not escalating enough. You're sending texts and she's asking who it is, not a good sign. Remember to be kino escalating constantly and when you're out you need to be carrying the conversation and playing little games that can carry over to texting, but you can't start using text games until you do some more face to face. It looks like your getting the opportunities to get things rolling but your just not taking them. If you want something to materialize with this girl or with any girls while your out then stop getting so drunk to the point where you blackout and just put a little more effort into things. Sorry to be so ruthless but you gotta get motivated somehow!

I completely agree with you Go. I'm fairly new to "gaming" and the more I read/learn/reflect the clearer my mistakes are to me. I definitely need to be more sober if I'm wanting to be able to use the game I am learning and I believe you're right about the opportunities being there.

There's a birthday party this Friday night that we both might be attending as we have through mutual friends. I'm going to do my best there. Afterwards we're heading to a club too.

I think I'm going to try to establish a connection with her, tease her and then after maybe create some sexual tension at the party if possible. Might consider running a routine or the cube or something. Not sure if I just want to freestyle, although I'm not a fan of routines.

If things go well there, I'll try to dance with her at the club and kino escalate into a kiss close.

If anyone sees holes in that game plan or has suggestions, I'm more than happy to hear them out.

If it's any help my "style" is modeled after that of Gambler.

Hey guys so update from last night.

I went with 2 friends to this party that I knew she was going to be at. It was a big birthday party.

So anyway, I see her in the corner of my eye in one room when I arrive, but I decided to roam about the party, play beer pong, meet people, greet all the hosts and just have a good time and make some new friends.

So I did that for a little bit. Then later I saw her for a minute while I was talking with two of her friends (while I was waiting in line for the bathroom).

Anyway, I waited until later in the night to really get things going. I ended up having my wingman distract her friends for a minute so I could get started. After I opened and started talking to her I started to kino escalate and I just made sure to keep strong eye contact and build some sexual tension between us. I progressed from just a hand on the shoulder to my arm around her or hands on her hips. She could probably tell that I wanted to kiss her, but I didn't want to with 25 people gathered around us in the room together. Everyone knows each other, and that would put up barriers for me. Anyway, she wasn't feeling the greatest and everyone was getting ready to go out and dance so I told her I would walk her home.

One of the birthday boys came over about 10 minutes before we were ready to leave and quite loudly said "your 3 o clock, a waste of time".

That ended up being golden for me as one of her best friends overheard and started qualifying the shit out of her, and telling me how I should play it with her, saying that she thought I was a good guy etc. So that was good too.

We walked home, had a nice talk and then at her door I held her and we kissed. I know from various sources that she's far from an easy girl so I said goodnight at the point and went back out.

The rest of the night was fun but irrelevant.

I sent her a text in the morning "Good morning! Hope you're feeling better now =)". She seemed happy about that so yeah.

Oh yeah, forgot to say I set up a date with her too at the party. So I'm excited for that =)

The date is set for next weekend.

Good deal! My one piece of advice is that this situation is fairly "average" (not in a bad way! you still got the close!) so don't go into the date with a ton of cocky funny, playing her down or anything like that. She sees you as a good guy, so just be yourself, be a good guy, and this could go places.

Good call. I'm wondering how much if at all I should text till this coming sunday when our lunch date is. I haven't picked the place yet.

But I feel I should keep a bit in touch, since it's a bit over a week since I'll have seen her.

Like others have said don't over think anything man. Just take it as it is!

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Ya I sent a text about going to a certain place for our date. She hasn't responded yet. I have a really difficult time not overthinking things. But I'll do my best lol.

So she called me two days after I texted her about our date and said that "things moved too fast friday" and that she'd be "more comfortable if we were just friends for a while"

=(