I've determined my game is pretty solid except for comfort building. I can easily get a HB interested now, get kino, the whole 9 yards, but that can only last so long. I'm not sure what to do on the comfort building. I'm having problems with this. I start to lose them after about 15 minutes. When I'm with my wing, Vivid, he can pick up the slack and help me out, but what can I do when he isn't there? Any suggestions for comfort building?

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Its not the words you speak, but the conviction of your actions. And with this said know that I am the prize.

learn to pace your routine and how to stack. also try and keep your routine short, move through phases faster, that way you spend less time in akward silence at the end of each stage. I'm not sure if there are any posts on stacking here, but look around the internet or pick up an ebook or real book and you'll find it.

good luck,

PB

Keep stacking material and stay fresh with the materials.

Once you let the interest level die down, you DLV.

And when you DLV, it's hard to rebound. Just keep buying her in.

i don't completely agree them. you should just try being yourself and think less about the game and picking them up. i mean you should DHV, neg, etc... but you should feel comfortable doing everything. you shouldn't be afraid of the people you talk to and just let things flow you know. try to make things automatic and everything will be SOOOO much easier... not to mention it's less stress and more fun.

you do need to be the center of attention sometimes, but you can also fly under the radar and just be very impressive and attractive to everyone. awkward silences are bad unless you are in that comfort zone where they don't really care about it. i usually build comfort/rapport with body language, eye contact and generally just talking to them about whatever. no negs or DHVs for a while, i fluff.... talk about how they felt about certain stuff... how i feel about stuff.... where we work, how we view relationships, or hobbies or whatever. wherever the conversation naturally goes/flows to.

what works well if you're having trouble during silences is to act alpha as if you have better things to do. here are some things you can do

1. pretend like you just got a text maybe while you think/make up some story if you want.
2. look around the room and pretend you see someone you know and talk about how that happens sometimes (do you ever see people you think you know, and they end up looking way off? or hey, he looks like *insert celebrity name*).
3. say a random joke, play a game, run a routine (cube, strawberry field, or something you made up)
4. talk about something interesting that happened to you that day, or the day before... sometimes we forget about these things.
5. talk about a tv show, movie, song, etc... that you feel passionate about, or enjoy.

it doesn't really matter as long as you can keep the conversation going. sometimes we just have trouble with topics to talk about because we think too much and everything becomes a blur.

try to pay attention and be alert. notice what your wing does to bring the conversation back and do something similar. or maybe you need practice on extending conversations in general. ask questions that might get them to talk more, if not maybe you can talk about similar experiences. look around the room maybe for a random topic because looking at it reminded you of something. etc...

hopefully that helps. but like i said i've found that inner game is key to everything. eventually you understand the theory so much and you have so much experience that inner game is the only thing that matters and it'll make you 10x better than you use to be..

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by Casual (Age 20, Upcoming PUA)

Remember to work the four attraction switches into your comfort building. In your conversations make sure to bring up stories about leading people, either your friends or other groups. Show that you're preselected. Feel free to bust out the photo routine and have pictures on your camera of you hanging out with other women. Or pretend to get a text from a girl while you're with her. Let her know you're willing to emote and don't just want to get in her pants. And finally, this ones the hardest in my opinion, demonstrate that you are the protector of your family and friends. I completely agree with Casual though, it has to be natural. Be yourself and make her feel comfortable while still keeping in mind to come across as a high value male.