I'm pretty good about sending messages on POF and getting replies. But, I don't get replies on OKCupid.

POF's message system is more of an email type of messaging, while OKCupid is more of an instant messenger type of system. So the same types of messages don't really apply to both sites.

What types of messages do you guys send out on OkCupid that have a high reply rate?

Direct approaches work well.

^^^^agreed, ive had alot better luck with direct approaching ok okcupid

The concept is pretty simple. She's on there to meet people, and so are you. There is no denying that so going direct is the best approach. Things like, "Hey, your personality really came through on your profile, and I'd like to get to know you better. What all do you like to do for fun?"

There are hundreds of ways to go direct, just compliment her on her profile or at least say something to suggest you actually read it and didn't just look at her pictures, and then ask her a question to start conversation.

I'll give that a try. Thanks.

Definitely. That has worked well for me. Usually the types of girls I'm into like the outdoors, climbing, biking etc. So they end up putting something to that effect in there (or they have a pic of that).

I have to say though I think it can be good to say something to the extent that you are "looking for people to hang out with" rather than "looking for a relationship" because that can come across as needy. I usually say something like "I'm always looking for people to go biking or diving with so let me know if you want to go play outside." Have gotten pretty good response rates.

I agree with you on this point. Most people are on dating sites to find relationships and it's no big secret. With that being said it should be just "assumed" that is what she is after, but it can be discussed in person. I like the way you approach this by saying let's go biking or diving, etc. That is a lot easier to agree to than "I'm wanting a relationship." Even though that is what ultimately a lot of people are after saying that "out loud" in a sense just adds pressure to the situation. By doing it this way it keeps it light and FUN (which is the ultimate attraction switch by the way)!!!