Not too long ago I asked the forum how to deal with random guys hitting on my gf...well now how should I deal with friends and/or friends of friends? Now im not worried about her but just how to deal with my friends, I dont want to start a fight for just flirting but I want the boundaries and respect here is the short explanation...ol buddy from high school...not much of a player type but ever since we double dated he brings up the fact that if I ever break up with her she is always welcomed without me, definite violation of bro code. His brother hit on her, even though his gf was nearby, doesnt help he was drunk...couple of my roommates friends hit on her too and one messaged her on facebook asking, "hey we should go get some drinks and go dancing"....she later told me this, I completely trust her, I just need some advice, what should I do, either talk to them, punch them out or defriend them altogether?

dude, it's a thing you have to deal with. when in a relationship, you have to not care about that stuff. there needs to be trust and you just have to trust that your gf won't cheat on you.

without trust, the relationship won't last.


if it's a friend, tell them to lay off. if they don't respect what you say, they aren't a good friend

why the fuck are all your "friends" trying to fuck your girlfriend?

time to seriously examine your social circle.

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some of my friends hit on my gf all the time. but it's harmless. you gotta learn to not care and just ignore it. last week i was out with her and she was approached and hit on by 5 different guys through out the night. i dont intervene and just ignore it and do something else. she always comes back to me...

I have to agree, none of my friends even pull this shit with girls I'm trying to hit on, I thought everyone understood the rules as friends.

Simple analogy I use all the time when describing this kind of thing to my friends is "I wouldn't eat off another man's plate so I wouldn't hit on their girl either". If you have friends doing this kind of bullshit and it's not just harmless flirting they don't strike me as friends.

I've had a situation where a new guy i started hanging with started to show too much interest in seeing my girl. he would make off comments stating that he couldn't wait to see my girl. And i would hear from other ppl he would be talking about my girl when i'm not around. Just from his actions he showed way too much interest in my girlfriend vs actually hanging with me I don't need that type of guy coming around he just seemed un trustworthy so I cut him off. I even told my girl about why i don't invite the guy around she understood.
these are aquaintances not your friends I'd talk the roomate about his friend trying to ask your girl out and how thats not cool. Especially when the guy knew thats your girlfriend.

Its really not a good idea to be bringing your girl around a bunch off dudes you're not cool with. Because they will try to talk to your girl on the sly when they think your not paying attention.

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um yeah...

harmless flirting is: hey, lookin' good there, better watch it bub, you caught yourself a real looker! good job!

dickhead-gonna-get-punched is: hey, call me when he isn't around, we'll go out sometime.

seriously, wtf

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Dude, your social circle does not respect you, you got to establish boundaries, that is disrespect. Honestly, I am not the jealous type, but if someone knows i have a girlfriend and cross boundaries and disrespect me, (as long as is NOT your girl shit testing you by flirting with them, they like to do that), i will warn him verbally with a strong donald trump frame, and if keeps happening threat, and if it keeps happening i would get physical, but that is just me. Disrespect to me is a nono.

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IMO.. like others have said these people are 'acquaintances' and not your friends. Choose your battle ground.. instead of inviting her where they are going to be around, take her out on a date or something out of the house/away from these people.

Set boundaries with them and your girlfriend, stating that they are out of respect. Don't act desperate when you do this, just say it in a casual manner, and see if anything changes.

If all these people have nothing else to think about than hitting on your woman, use it against them. Explain to her how desperate they are.. frame them as misogynists as they are obviously unable to be friends with you both without wanting to f. her. Simply use their sleaziness against them and this will trigger a defensive mechanism and she should turn off to their crap.

I've been in a similar situation and framing a natural AMOG as a sleazy misogynist worked a treat. She won't want to be associated with these people as that behavior is low value.

without trust, the relationship won't last.