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| MickCoffee | PostPosted: Fri Sep 23, 2011 5:35 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Sat Dec 05, 2009 1:35 pm Posts: 242 Location: Scotland | | Hey guys, just a quick example and a question.
Lets say I'm in a social interaction with my group of friends, I'm telling them a story about myself and before you know it. I get interrupted by a cocky friend of a friend in the group. What is the most acceptable way to act?
It sounds weird if I put it like this but is it acceptable to just tolerate his behaviour, ignore him and continue with the story? Without saying a word? _________________ "At the end of the day these are women's lives we're dealing with, not mere entertainment."
"We are what we repeatedly do. excellence therefore is a habit and not an act."
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| Don Draper | PostPosted: Tue Sep 27, 2011 6:52 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Sat Jan 15, 2011 5:44 pm Posts: 1614 | | Well, you can just tell him that :
You : (talking)
Guy: (interrupting)
You : "What? You have a better tale to tell?"
(after a moment of silence from him)
You : "That's right. You don't." and a smirk and continue.
OR
You : (talking)
Guy : (interrupting)
You : "What? You have something better to say?"
Guy : "Oh yeah! You know.."
You : (interrupting) "The right answer here is 'No, I don't.'" and a small smile.
Keep your voice firm and calm. Act like the bigger guy and that you are not amused by the interruption, he'll shut up.
Let me know how that goes. _________________ " You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "
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| lolaskate | PostPosted: Wed Sep 28, 2011 11:53 am | |
Joined: Fri Apr 29, 2011 10:57 am Posts: 675 Location: Australia | | Your cocky friend's str increases when you give him attention.
Ignore him, talk over the top of him, be louder, be center of attention. You should be good, because originally you had enough attention to tell your story.
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| poeticlyskuac | PostPosted: Wed Sep 28, 2011 5:46 pm | |
| Offline | | Moderator |  | Joined: Thu Sep 27, 2007 1:18 pm Posts: 2130 Website: http://www.thescienceofnaturalgame.com | | Learn to tell the story so that when they interrupt everyone looks at him rudely. Then looks back over at you, be the most exciting person there. Sounds crazy but if you use to use illustrators more often, smile, and raise the energy more you can make it so they almost always look back to you. Even funnier that cocky friend trying to get attention just looks like and asshole trying to get attention.
If you are worried about someone acting like that you can just laugh use your body language to cut him out then continue with your story. Step in front of him then continue it will be a dick move but so is interrupting.
You can jokingly but seriously at the same time say "before I was so rudely interrupted" using a goofy tone then continue your story.
You could just look at them strangely pausing your story so that they realize their behavior was out of line and then continue your story.
In general you can just make it seem as though his rudeness in interrupting a story is a part of his normal behavior and dismiss it and continue on. If someone asks say he always does this I've learned to ignore it. You can say "and this is why I've learned to ignore you" smiling then continue your story.
You can do several things, the point is to be the "cool customer", the guy that just says whatever and continues on doing what they do. _________________ Just another guy from back in the day.
Blogging again living life: http://www.Scienceofnaturalgame.com
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| magnum45 | PostPosted: Thu Sep 29, 2011 9:20 pm | |
Joined: Sun Feb 17, 2008 10:40 am Posts: 832 | | I get interrupted all the time, especially in group situations. You should take it as a compliment. The male feels comfortable enough to talk over you, he isn't afraid of you and that is a good thing. It's a good thing because he can be honest with you and honesty in this world is hard to come by. It's honest because he's letting you know he is bored.
So take accountability for his lack of interest. Don't interrupt him like he interrupted you. If you do it will get mean and nasty. Show him respect because you deserve respect back. Your story needs work and if someone else wants to continue the group conversation, let them! It's less work on you and maybe you can pick up were he left off. There are thousands of opportunities to tell stories. Don't let this guy cause you any negative feelings. _________________ Walk Hard
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| AlphaLove | PostPosted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 11:05 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Wed Sep 14, 2011 9:57 pm Posts: 5 Location: London | | Trying to compete and blocking him off will make you appear a loser and very desperate. Seem unammused by his interruption, and if your brave enough throw a joke at him before leaving. Dont hang their like a beaten punchbag.
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