Hey so I've picked up a lot of chicks from bars and clubs but never had a relationship. I went on my first official date I got to second base. We only text and see each other on the weekends because schedule conflicts and transportation. But I'm on my second date now this weekend and she keeps playing hot and cold. At first she was really into me cause she thought I was cool based on stories she heard about me. She used to be really in depth with test now it's short answers it's been 2 weeks together but she still responds quickly. Now she's just hot and cold idk but I think she's starting to lose interest... She also talks to a lot of guys they're her friends though and she's pretty popular hot so it's something I don't think I can avoid. And she mentions her ex a bit here and there. She doesn't want to go public or be I'm a relationship yet until we get in a few more dates but that's understandable I guess. What can I do to improve my situation ?


I've read a few threads on something similar they said just distance a bit if she's playing hot and cold idk though

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any help guys ?

well first things first
she didn't want to go public so you obviously brought it up which is a huge no no
she should show that she wants you more than your showing her
get back to the basics bro
flip the script on her she is trying to seduce you remember?
second thing
she was dating her ex because she liked him
the things she bitches about are probably the same things that kept her around
remember a girl doesn't fall for you while they are with you
they fall for you while there away from you and while they are thinking about you
pick up what it is she "hated" so much and fundamentally you start to posses those traits
if those things stick with her to the point she is going to talk about it with you they are extremely powerful

Basically agree with everyone here, you seemed too pushy.

She did happen the mention that her last boy friend was too clingy after they separated for vacation and broke up when they got back. So how do I use this info? So far I've been trying to keep distance and avoid being clingy?

Thanks a lot that's some really solid advice. I'll try it out this week and update after the second date.

okay so! I asked her out on the second date this long weekend and she kinda said maybe I know I could get it if i push for it but I don't wanna seem annoying and like show her shes in control. How should I got about this?