Alright I know a lot of people want to know how to get rid of a BF, it's been talked about quite a bit on this board. In my mind, this situation is unique in the fact that I've known this HB9 for quite a while and we have become close friends and F-buddies. Obviously at this point it isn't a LJBF problem. I know this girl is someone that I want build a life with.

Problem is she's had a boyfriend during the last 6 years during our occasional get togethers. I know she's not happy with this guy, all she says about him is that he's extremely protective (imagine that), and that he basically babysit's her every move. Well, at the risk of hearing about one-itis, how in the world do you become more than just an occasional F-buddy? I need to get rid of this guy & I really think that giving up on her would be a huge mistake.

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Warwick

i recently dealt with this situation with a girl from hs that i turned from a friend from h.s. that i hadnt talked to in 3 yrs (that had a live-in boyfriend of 5 years) into a single FB....

anyways i wont get into that
remember in the game where mystery closes scott baio's girl?
He DHV's himself over Baio by focusing on Baio's bad qualities (old, not fun, doesnt go out, etc.)
this is exactly what i did and it worked!
You need to get her to understand that she would be much happier without him. She's prolly still with this guy because she is "stuck" in the relationship. It's her fallback, he's an AFC thats getting cheated on. She is prolly using him for his money, car, house, etc.
But, theyv been together 6 years with no ring? time to move on

you can do this man. You have been her FB. So she enjoys the sex - you need to now give her what her AFC bf isnt
figure out what that is and amplify it

cheers

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check this out man, i run into this a lot. you comfort her, you are her escape from her bf. her bf has a lot of things that bother her, a lot of flaws, and she turns to you to vent, and for physical and mental reassurence that good men do exist. what you may have to come to terms with, and i say this without knowing the girl nor the finer details of the situation, is that although her bf does a lot of things that bother her, on the wider spectrum, she loves him, despite his minor set-backs. no one has a 100% perfect, 50 year marrige. every married man or woman can list of things that their spous does that bothers them, but those are the little things. over all, they still love them, flaws and all. so even though you may posses some better qualities then her bf in the area that he lacks, there is something about him that she is drawn to, and probably will be for a very long time, considering she's dealt with all those flaws for 6 years. now i'm not saying its impossible, I got a girl, not to break up, but i subtly encouraged it, and won over a her when she had been in a 3 year relationship, but only because she had recently moved to America and he was still back home and neither had any plans of moving, so I didnt feel bad. if i were in your shoes, i would content myself to F-buddies, and not try to break something up that strong, because 6 years is a long time, and it's not really your place to get between that.
now if you think you can make her happier than he has in the past 6 years, keeping in mind that she hasn't yet left him for you, then do what you gotta do. amplify his flaws, exemplify the freedoms she sacrafices by being with him. thats the best way to undermine and sublty destroy a relationship. make one person, your target, realize shes unhappy.
I want to mention this before i finish though, becarefull. it sounds like she may see you only as an F-buddy and may be slightly in the friend zone. I cant say for sure, but I dont get the feeling she views you in the same light she does her bf. But that is just pure speculation.

Good luck,

PB

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Well you guys brought up some really good points.

Yeah, 6 years without a ring says something. She's told me she has no desire to go further with this guy anyways. I know for a fact that they've broken up once in the middle of that 6 years somewhere. I just have to figure out how to amplify his flaws since she doesn't talk about him too much.

We'll see how it goes.
Appreciate your thoughts!

Warwick

Think about what you're doin man...

This girl has been fucking you, while she has had a bf for over 6 years...

What's gunna happen after you date her for a few years and she starts getting bored? Then she goes out with other guys, then you start getting jealous and protective, and the next thing you know... I'm fucking your girl!

I don't get wrapped up with broads with bf's for that reason. I don't suggest you do either. I'd continue fucking her untill she does break up with him and then be like "sorry, I don't want that to happen to me, you fucking whore" and find something with morals, you'll be happier in the end.

Work it

arrange me a FB aswell

B Rob has a good point.. You wouldn't wanna get with a chick that cheated with her boyfriend for you because she'd probably do that to you if you got with her. This isn't for all cases, but I'd say for a majority. If you think shes your one, then go for it.

I am sort of in the same situation. An HB9 is seeing me and another guy at the same time for the past two weeks, so my question is how do I dhv over the other guy when I know nothing about him?

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Yeah you can do this. She wants you to take her away from her BF. Do it.

Bedrock

Yeah, she definitely wants to leave her guy, she just needs safety in knowing someone will be there for her afterward. I once got involved with a girl who was engaged to be married. I could tell she was into me so I just sort of ignored her wedding ring and flirted back and hung out with her just as a "friend." I had the feeling she wasn't too into the whole relationship with her guy so I kept going and developed an emotional "friend" relationship wit her. I made sure to emphasize my qualities which her fiance lacked. After some comfort building, we ended up hooking up a several times. She called off the marriage on account of her cheating. Immediately after she wanted to date but I really wasn't interested. It really crushed her because I "ruined" her marriage, but I figure she would have been in a real crappy one anyways if she was so easily willing to cheat so I think I did her a favor. Her guy was suspicious of us afterwards and for a while he wanted to kick my ass hard.

Anyways, moral of the story. If you pull a girl from her long term relationship, it can get dangerous. My problem was that she really wanted to date. In your case you want to date her so you just have to convince her that you'll be there for her more than just an F-buddy. I'd suggest showing you can emote and that you are a protector of your friends and family as often as possible. Try to play on her boyfriends flaws. She knows you can have sex but needs to know that you can be her boyfriend.