Love the inner game of things and had a bit of an epiphany as I was walking out of the club after a major obliteration night- it sucked hardcore but what the fuck… EVERYBODY has them..

Walking back to my car just started to think… on nights like this,
It is so fucking easy to focus on "my lack of progress", " my lack of women", "my lack of action", "my lack of friends" and my brain seems to be a genius at tuning out all the positive progress I have made. I know I have done some solid shit and feel like no matter what, I am kicking ass and way ahead of the curve as they say. Solution- switch gears.(credit "the secret")

I think that it is so important to become conscious, to just focus on some positive shit that you have done. I mean I can honestly say I am not really focusing on it as much as I want but fuck!! I aint the same guy as I was a few months ago- In linguistic terms.- I have gone from passive to active.

I assert myself at work- I don´t let the usual SOBs walk all over me, I assert myself in my relationships and respect and expect respect- I know that I am not at final destination or have got to "the life" yet or maybe never will because of a lot of deep seated fucked up shit.

But it is so important to take into account and consciously recognize your progress no matter what- as I meditate I find it easier to focus and be “unfazed” even after a major obliteration where I literally approached and one after another got hit by the wall and then to go back again no matter what.
In the end, “practice, persistence, and balls” are all you need- and I got all three- so I can let the results take care of themselves- it is a foregone conclusion.
Peace.

HI,


Update.
Just had a fucking amazing last two or three weeks.
I was having lots of ups and downs and not seeming to be getting to first base.
But kept slogging- kept approaching and boom!
Yesterday went for a Chinese with one.
In an hour gonna meet another and then go out on my own to sarge.
Tomorrow at 12 midday going to the beach with another. I feel fucking awesome.
Starting to see some major fucking results- coming from an mentality of abundance.
Women really do notice as you appear to leave the insecure and needy phase and come into the abundant state- having options- having more than just one fucking phone number left to call.
Previously I would have been biting at the bit to hook up but now, I have been a bit more relaxed. And I think now am radiating more confidence.
Anyways, keep slogging, keep fucking approaching and boom!!!

Just got back.

In the end, couldn´t go sarging cos I got a make out with the girl I went to meet and then popped to my car, which was parked quite near in a discreet area and kacha boom!!! Major things that helped me... I think again that the girl senses how bothered or not I am about an outcome. I literally couldn´t care less because I knew that I was seeing another in a few hours on the beach and at night guaranteed sex with another girl I saw at the Chinese the other day.

Problem is now I have to work out how to handle this so that it doesn´t all blow up in my face.

anyways cool!!!!

The Sunday night usual bang I think has sensed something is definitely wrong and has ejected- she sent me a text saying she couldn´t come on Sunday evening because she was with "friends"- I know that she has very few so she was just trying to amp her value in my eyes. I simply texted saying "have a nice time xx".

So, I didn´t bust my nut last night after all.

Anyway, the Saturday night chic has answered my calls and texts and the girl yesterday on the beach invited me for dinner and to come over to her place at the weekend- she has a little place near the beach.... should be good.

I am again, in my inner game- religiously focusing on the positive steps I am making and at the same time...

Aiming to get good with women, not just to get one particular girl(taken shamelessly from RSD)

So, as I know women will blow me off, at the same time, I am geting life lessons and valuable experience in this department which will ultimately help me get a girl of value.

Approached a hb7 with her chubby friend near the beach, near my house earlier and felt zero approach anxiety and spent five minutes talking but ejected before number closing. Either way, it felt good to be just talkig to them with no particular agenda. They were cool

Today not much doing.
I had an unexpected free hour so raced to the local mall to approach.

hb8.5 with a pair of legs like fucking perfect- was going to pass up but thought wtf.. curiously zero approach anxiety.
went and say down on same bench- I pretended to be writing a text message and then opened- with a pretty lame comic line...

she giggled but then after a bit of fluff, waved to a friend and pissed off. FUck! she was gone.

Got a message from the girl i had in my car on Saturday night- got a date for tomorrow with her. wtf.

DId a few otherlame approaches- what time is it? and eject and a few other approaches that lasted literally 5 seconds.

Sometimes, i just don´t bother and am waiting for the perfect moment to do the approach and blow it waiting for it to come...+
must just think "what the fuck" and go for it whenever- that is the ticket.

Quick update.

Went for a drink with babe from Saturday night. It was great.
We were out for a while chilling and shooting the breeze, I suggested popping to my place to check out my hottest recipe, he he he, and boom!!!

we were at it again but due to high temps. or (maybe me getting a bit older) I had trouble getting it up. (My buying temp was too high!!)
Still I busted my nut and jobs a good en!

Saw also, yesterday girl from beach, she has invited me to her place on Sunday- guess that once you start having a little success it gives you more momentum with other chics. that is the only explanation I can think of..

Hapy times guys.

OK guys,

tried to call the chic I brought back to my place on Wednesday and it just kept ringing- this was yesterday on Friday-

So... anyway, I got this chic POF and saw she had been online a few hours earlier- and started feeling needy and insecure. she hadn´t taken my call- so my imagination went wild- picturing her doing the same with some chode as she had done with me. It didn´t feel nice.

So, I tried to think about Tomorrow- and my date- and the fact that the girl from last Sunday who didn´t bite- had finished a video chat really positively with me blowing kisses etc- so I feel the abundance mentality-

and the goal- getting good with girls not getting one particular woman and it is on.

Epiphany------- going to focus on my abundance, not the chicks possibilities or abundance or screwing around ---- just going to be the man and enjoy myself- the moment- trust the process--- focus and see how far I have come- this abundance I have and the ability to choose what I see right now- is all that counts- I am fucking awesome!

Yo!!!

I have been having an intense few days.

Feeling the scarcity mode again because I was getting into the girl who had come over to my house last week.

Anyways, todayToday was a holiday so yesterday called her and we arranged to meet.
We went for a drink and anyway we end up at my place again…. and you know the rest. But still nothing is for sure---- I mustn´t think innocently that once I have had sex a few times and made out and whatever- that it is a done deal and a relationship can just magically appear- there are no guarantees.

This morning she says she is “sensitive” and that she still hasn´t got her feelings sorted out about me- and that is after we had spent most of the night at it.
Anyway, I think that she has more friends like me and wants to pretend she is sorting out her feelings for me while in reality she is calling up her other fans and getting some action there. Also, I rang her up and asked her what she had been doing and she said that she had been talking to another male friend on the phone. All this attention must make her feel so special. Guess I must take a back seat and let her come after me if she is really interested or she can disappear- so be it.
Tonight, I look on the phone to see a missed call- my LTR as of a few months back- had phoned and so I called back.

Now, going back a few months ago, I would have felt horrible for having been with a girl the previous night and now talking and setting up a meet with another the day after but the way I see it, the guy who is banking on just that one “special” girl ends up getting screwed(and I don´t mean in bed)

Taking action is the mindset I want to be In or game over.

I have been going through states of neediness and insecurity- and yet have managed to keep it together as the blond of the other day seemed to have gone cold on me...

a far cry from my call to focus on progress but yet again- thanks to this post I draw my attention back to my progress and how far I have come---

I am now 200% better at work-- can speak relatively confidently at meetings and throwing in some jokes etc and also with colleagues find it easier to assert myself and generally open my mouth and speak, whereas would have previously shut my mouth and kept quiet.

I went to the mall and did a couple of approaches with some approach anxiety and yet I did it and that is all that counts- gorgeous brunette but I couldn´t transition from my initial opener so ejected and then anothe blond- but again couldn´t transition from my initial opener- it was like, inside I was so pleased with the opener going well that I didn´t want to risk rejection and transition but that is what I must do to progress- get rejection for that is how I calibrate.

Babe from other day, who slept at my place, texted me and rang me- but telling me she was "tired" due to work- and didn´t want to go out but "maybe" tomorrow- I aint going to hold my breath, as I probably would have done a couple of years back- now I have options- and tomorrow is Saturday night!

Pleased about my mindset right now- so proactive- and I feel that I am thinking the thoughts I should be thinking- thinking in terms of success now, abundance and finally moving into the sort of behaviours I have spent years trying to create.

Update.
This weekend, all in all has been fucking great!
Friday- my chief goal the blond from the other day blows me out saying that she is tired, on her period or whatever….yet she is as active as fuck on POF..very suspicious. Fuck! I ring her up the next day and suggest going out- she says she will give me a call later- no call….It is curious to think that she is playing hardest to get- maybe that is why I pay her any attention at all.
I feel depressed and was going to go out to sarge that evening but at 9 decide to call my LTR who I was thinking was pissed off with me but to my surprise she says, why don’t I come over… wtf???
I go over and well, it was fucking awesome. I was almost chuckling to myself thinking at 2 in the morning as we were, well, you know, enjoying ourselves, normally I would have limited myself to one babe but thanks to my increasing options- I had other girls willing to be with me- so my weekend went out with a real BANG! YO!!!
Holy shit!!!
I ended up sleeping at her place. We went out midday to stroll,,, went to a restaurant and generally had a nice day… it was gorgeous weather- and dropped her off- just in time to get back to my place, have a quick shower and go back out to go for another walk with the brunette who invited me over to spend a day on the beach the other week- she was really nice and as it was getting dark, I decided to cut the walk short but she was all up for continuing… No escalation, a little bit of kino but nothing special…Either way, I asked her over to my place this weekend and she accepted so cool...
Awesome…

I drive back home and look on the mobile and see that the blond I was pining for has phoned me and so I call her back- she is cool but says she is going through a tough patch and needs some space and wants to put me in the fucking dreaded “friends zone”-for the time being wtf???? But she says, that we may still send each other sms´s and call each other…
My whole attitude, I think, subcommunicated “the I couldn´t give a fuck” slant-
Man, I was so proud of myself- I had turned defeat and the thought of having a shit weekend, into an awesome weekend- a great adventure and yesterday I also approached some ladies too in the supermarket- but my cold approaches lately are usually going nowhere fast- must set myself a goal to approach methodically every day to see to fucking results…and make a commitment.

Mental note-- next time I get one itis--- just focus on the positive outcome I am looking for and think about that as if I already had it .... think in terms of success, not desperate pining.

Hi,

yesterday- I decided not to get in touch with the woman who put me in the friends zone- and just call it quits- take what I can by means of experience and move on. Nor did she get in touch with me. But that is fine and I think that I will thank her for it later, although right now it hurts a bit.

I sent a message in the morning to the lady I had been with on Saturday- she answered like 12 hours later- as I was going to go to bed.

To use RSD language- I am pinging off other girls too much for my feelings of self-worth- I mean, the basic paradigm I find myself at is-

the girls are messaging me and I am setting up dates and "getting the girl" - then the world is a wonderful place and the flowers smell great. But the minute I get any IOD´s then I just seem to lose all my self- worth and acceptance so now I want to be able to gain selfvalidation so I am not depending on women to give me my sense of self-worth. It is a ridiculous idea that I should pin that onto a woman no matter how hot she is.

I need to get the reality that no matter how wonderful or badly a woman reacts to me- I am still the fucking shit and want to bear that in mind at all times.

and again- get proactive this week. I got loads of "eye fucks" as I was running a long the beach- I must approach as I do my run too and take advantage of each and every opportunity that comes my way.

Hi,

Thank God, I work a lot because if I had been stuck at home I would have been thinking none stop on the girl who blew me off- but I was working a lot and had my mind occupied. I slept the whole night- a sure sign that I am getting back to normal.

Holy shit- that blond fucked me up. That Goddam mobile looking back at me with a blank screen- no messages, no missed calls and me thinking she was going to call me. What a stupid fuck! How could I let myself fall. I have to think this is going to help me become who I want to be in the long run- to accept it and walk away.

I didn´t see it coming but now I see this as a massive learning opportunity- either way, I have 2 women who are "into" me and show interest---- I am in a great position and have zero reason for despair- but that is how I feel for my one itis. It isn´t the first time and each time I "pull round" faster and that is what counts.

To make changes in my life what I want to do is take daily action- today I am going to approach as I do my run along the beach and just grab opportunities.
Approaching is what helps you to improve.

Yesterday really pissed with myself- ran along the beach- got eye contact and did a super lame approach on some brunette with a J.Lopez ass... but just ejected.

Got more eye contact from lots of girl but didn´t do anything..

saw a girl I had cold approached some time back but had never took my calls so I went over and spoke-- she said JEEz how ya doing..
told her I had called and she said, ah yes I have a new phone.
She took my phone number again and said she would give me a missed call..
surprise surprise no missed call when I get back to my phone to look...
I won´t be posting again until I have approached 5 more girls....

hope to be back here soon.

Hi,
Been working my ass off this week- so as you can see the 5 approaches didn´t happen until Thursday.

As you may have guessed, I developed massive “one-it is” for the blond I hooked up with a few times- she seemed nice and had a good body so… it was only natural that I should have felt the way I did- I was thinking about her all the time but now I am not thinking hardly about her and thanks to all the approaches don´t really care anymore- phew!

Being doing a lot of direct game- like Sasha´s style- just walk up and say you´re the most beautiful girl I´ve seen all day- bla, bla,

It got a good response and one girl even said “do you REALLY think so?”

Most were run of the mill- except for one- went for my run along the beach and there is a HB9 I approach and I kinda of had seen her working in the airport some time back so used it as my opener- we got to talking, it felt like she was doing more game than I was- she asked me for my facebook- she asked me if I had 5 mins to talk- all in all awesome- I thought I was in like Flynn.

Then when I suggest going for a coffee the following day, she says she is going for a drive in the country with her other half- didn´t see that one coming. WTF.
I have working again on my inner game- and it is funny how time can play tricks on your mind- I mean- life can change dramatically from one week to the next- I mean one week you are getting nowhere- no girls getting back at you- just a wall no matter where you look.

But a few days later, you notice and realize all your work has paid off and you are sitting with a girl in some bar on a “date”. It is cool.

“Great success can be for me too- not just the experts.”

I bounced back and yesterday was pretty special- I approached a girl in the supermarket I have been working on for a few weeks and it went pretty much to shit but I didn´t care. Some time ago, I would have been thinking holy fuck, I have blown it but now my mindset it, so what?

Went to have a drink with a woman who has a kid, I couldn´t escalate much because her kid was there so it was difficult- but she had some amazing boobs. I was getting a hard on just looking at them.

Anyway, I get back home- go to call my LTR and she is not impressed because I called her on a Saturday night at 10.15 and hadn´t made any plans with her. I feel bad and should really do the right thing and tell her there is no you and me but I don´t want to hurt her feelings.

Was trying to convince myself at 11 and then 12 not to go out but manage to kick my ass out the door and went to a couple of venues. I go down the stairs to the club and there are 2 girls taking photos standing next to a monster- it is Halloween parties everywhere- I courteously act them if they´d like me to take their photo. They agree and then ask if they can take a photo with me! Fuck. I hug her and it feels great.

Go into the bar and did practically zero sarging because while going for a drink start talking to a blond who is looking good and we were talking for a while but I should have just cut because she liked me hanging around but anyways I felt comfortable just talking to her putting my arm around her and not being able to escalate much at all. Got number but it turns out to be bullshit

Leave the club and pressed on- went to another venue. Straight into talking to a woman in the entrance and we talk a bit and then I go inside and see there is a girl who I quite like and have seen there a few times- went up – and asked her if she was a vampire and going to try to bite me on the neck. It got a smile and did the trick to open fine. Humour is gold with women.

Anyways we went for a dance and she wanted to go back so as not to leave her friend alone- we were talking and that was that- she seems nice and yet this morning tried her cell and it rings but no answer… It is fucking difficult to make a “real” connection that will be strong enough to break through today 2-

Well either way, thanks to going constantly out of my comfort zone and approaching more and more difficult sets I am finding my confidence permanently on the increase,

Gotta trust in this process.

Brunette from second nightclub.

As I mentioned, I had phoned and sent a text message to the brunette that I had seen a few times in the club- and had got nothing in reply.

Now just looking at my mobile- see she has sent me the following message.
"we are going to the shopping centre- if you want to come along- let me know."
holy fuck! she is kick ass this chick- Jackie chan style.

excellent!!! and the best part is she just lives ten mins away by car!!

back on track guys!!!