talking to the friends of a girl who turned you down, or even hanging out with them, is never going to hurt you. Just
1. Don't talk to her friends about how she turned you down.
2. Don't talk negative about her to her fries
3.don't talk about your gf (if you have one) to her friends.
And
1. Interacting with her friends can be used to build jealousy plotline.
2. Being in contact with her would make sure that she is never out of your reach.
3. Show how much of a great guy you are to her friends and winning them over can greatly improve your chances with her.
4. Being with her friends could create a situation where she is with you. May be you invited them somewhere and they bring her (dont show excitment if they do) or may be they invite you somewhere where she would also be.
Those were my thoughts about you and her friends.

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If you hit it off with someone, male or female, why not spend time with them?
If she mentions it, tell her to stop being so immature over it just because of you two, that you can spend time with anyone you like doesn't have to be linked with her.

I wouldn't bother unless you're just friends with the guy.
I mean going threw all the trouble of asking him to a bar and then asking him about the girl you just met would be some what creepy or weird.

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She is so confusing. I cannot believe she kissed me, and then turned me down for a second date. Who does that? lol


I think the advice has been really cool given on here. Does everyone agree that I should wait a while and then contact her via text?

He wasn't planning to ask about the girl, just make a new friend.

Yeah man, I would definitely suggest meeting up with that guy. Maybe bring a third person but that's completely acceptable. Especially because he might mention it to her, and that puts you in her head without you having to say anything.

But yeah, wait a while then text as though nothing ever happened. Don't bring up too much from the previous times you saw each other, its preferable to stay moving forward rather than harp on old topics.

Ok so I went out last night to the bar where we had our first date. I bumped into another one of her friends (a guy, as well) and he was really nice. It is so easy with her friends cause they are all very polite, and genuine people.

So anyway, he asked me about our date and whether we were gonna see each other again, to which I responded that "we will see what happens, she is very smart and driven, and sweet." Then we started talking about dating sites, to which I said that women get so many emails from men that they can really pick and choose, implying it's a numbers game. The longer the message, the higher the response rate).

So I may have over-spoken on the subject, but besides that, I think I presented myself very well. So I was thinking that this could serve as a bridge for me re-establishing contact. "Hey Hey Hey! I hung out with your friend at a bar the other night." Or something to that effect?

So how long should I wait before contacting her? Does my game plan sound like a winner?

Thanks all!