okay so a friend of mine thought it would be a good idea to set me up with another one of her friends...so i agreed to it, but the other friend didnt like the idea of it. Anyways we chatted on msn for a good week and a half and after a couple days exchanged numbers and started txting back and forth, then I called her, but not everyday, and our phone convos would last a good 1-2hrs. So yesterday we finally decided to meet up and we did, we met up at a coffee house and we talked for a good 2hrs....

Heres a couple things i dont get: one is that she calls me bud in the txt msgs...so for example "hey bud, im going to go to bed"....second thing is, after we hugged good-bye (and hello, which was inititated by her) she said "nice meeting you, we'll probably see each other at ricki's place sometime", so when i heard that I was thinking ummmm is she not interested? but she did txt me later on at night. So im just confused now.

try flirting and teasing with her and see how she reacts

I agree with jdilla1 here, you need to play flirt, show some exiting, romantic and see how she likes it! You're about to head to friend zone without sexual appeal here!

Good luck!

any suggestions on what i should do, iv been out of the game for a very long time.

No one can figure chicks out mate. They are complex life forms.
Ha ha..

But on a serious note, I remember, being set up by my friend, with one of is ex's (they were now good friends). It turned out, that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend at the moment..awkward. However, she did give me her number, and we began texting back and forth. She always used to send x's and o's at the end of her texts, which FYI, should never be perceived as IOI's, as I foolishly assumed them to be back then. (Most, if not all girls, do that with texts apparently) Darn all these mind games!

Anyway, she also happened to use the word 'babe' very frequently, regardless who she was texting or talking to. With her girlfriends, close male friends and boyfriend, so this was just something she had grown accustomed to. Maybe, the 'bud' thing is just what she is used to doing, and has no particular meaning. Or maybe, that is what she has labeled you as already. A buddy.

I have to agree with fin_daddy on this one. It sounds as if she sees you as a friendly figure, because you have failed to make a move of any sort. If you continue to let her treat you as a 'bud', that feeling will solidify, and it will make it tougher to escape the friend zone. Make your move!

Good luck!

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Wow well in my opinion it seems your looking to much into the simple, firstly id advise not to msn, meeting directly is the overall best thing to do and cuts alot of the first time akwardness with wemon youd have, it definatly helped that you two met up tho, as far as the fact she calls you bud.. through my expereince thats like a nickname, nicknames can help generate attraction beacuse there cute playful and no one but you and her call each other that, so for instance if her names mallory, you could nickname her muffin, another thing is if shes the one hugging on you then shes physicly escalating on you, you dont exactly hug people your not attracted to do you? now dont think to much into that by thinking she really likes you, it could be more of a freindly hug, it just depends if youve attracted her or not, id say shes intrested in you beacuse she said that youd two would probably see each other again, which means that she tought of you and her getting back together and hanging out, i however disagree with -Nike- chicks are simple... its our own self problems which cause the distance between us and beautifal wemon not the fact there complex, Turbo123 if your a little rusty on attraction and gaming then i could advise some great stuff thats full of content, its helped me lots with wemon and its definatly worth looking into, let me know if your intrested.

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Id rather be the one in a relationship instead of some guy id pretend to be...

yea i think jdilla1 has the right idea and i would personally try to arrange something face to face as you can read her more appropriately, also a good mindset I've developed with dealing with girls is to never really take their actions seriously and just treat them as i would a little sibling (unless their being totally serious, in which case you might have to back off )

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