actually I met a girl a few months ago, it was sort of a fling - i was interested in a relationship, although she, in retrospect, seemed more interest in having fun, and sex (she's only 21, and I'm 32),but now I'm at friend status with her, though she's got no issue being affectionate with me (cuddling, caressing etc..).

Really sucks as I like her a lot but I realize I offer security/safety to her. Crappy thing is she's told me she doesn't want to be in a relationship, particularly after dealing with the hurt from the previous ones & had indicated on numerous occasions that she's dealing with something emotionally which she's not willing to tell anyone about - but that she's 'working things things out on" on her own. I 'm not sure there's any way to 'win her' over, but am open to suggestions, and yea...moving on and forgetting about her has been on my mind though I'd like to c if there's ANYTHING I can do to woo her.