Just stay on the path that is being lit before you and do not stray...you should be ok!

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

That shouldn't be your concern. You have to take on the mindset that she made her choice. If she is sad and didn't want you to sleep with other people, then she shouldn't have broken up with you.

It's good for you that she is sad, so let her be!

Let her be sad until she can't take it anymore and wants you back. Don't do anything to interfere with that.

got ya!

I'll update this thread as soon as I get some news from her...

That's not the mindset you should have right now. Do not sit around and wait for "news from her." You should be going about your life as if you're never going to hear from her again. Take that time as an opportunity to create a better, stronger you.

You absolutely have to focus on you here, and convince yourself that you don't need her. If you do succeed at improving yourself and becoming more alpha, then you will greatly increase your chances of KEEPING her if/when she does come back, if you still want her back at that point.

If you fail to improve yourself, then even if she does come back, you will ultimately end up losing her again soon after, for basically the same reasons you lost her the first time.

Ok, I see your point here, and you're right...
any video/book recommendations about Inner Game and being more talkative?

thanks again!

Go out with your boys man! We accidently ran over some dudes toes in a 2008 BMW 335 XI Twin Turbo last weekend. We we're hittin' on some chicks, and you should've seen some of the looks on these chicks faces lol. See where I'm headed?

Go out and have fun!

"How To Become An Alpha Male" by John Alexander, and "Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida are two very good ones.

And like Kobe said, go out and have fun with your friends. That is one of the best things you can do. No matter what, you should always have a life outside of your girlfriend.
Don't stop doing the things you like to do just because of a girl. Keeping going out with your friends, keeping watching sports on tv, keep having poker night, keep playing video games...whatever it is you like to do. Never make your girlfriend your life, the moment you do is the moment she will stop respecting you and leave you.

I'm reading David Deida's book, and it talks a lot about finding you purpose on life...
This is the main problem, because I KNOW the MAIN purpose of life of every human (and other animals) is to survive and procreate (as Mystery said).. everything else is just distraction, bullsh*t..

Yeah I like going out my friends, etc. But I don't have any deep purpose in life rather than survive and bang a lot of chicks...

sometimes I think that It would be better if I didn't learn the game, because now that I know how things work I know that I'm a social robot..

Some guys will disagree with this, but unfortunately it IS the way human acts, I see it every day, I see it's all about DHV's DLV's IOI's and IOD's... you can't deny this, it's 100% psychology..

So, what's the solution to this? getting out and fool/distract myself with other activities, create a high value life, but I deeply know inside myself that all this will be to attract women, because that's the MAIN purpose of life...

"happiness is just survival and replication judging system"

what do you think?

You're looking at "purpose" incorrectly.

When we talk about "purpose," that is to say your passions, your drive, the reason you get out of bed in the morning. Hollywood will tell us that it is chivalrous for your girlfriend to be your reason for getting out of bed, but in reality you will lose her if you do that.

You need to have interests in your life, other than women. You can be passionate about anything: fitness, recycling, mountain climbing, cars, natural health, real estate, reading, gardening, painting, history...it doesn't matter. But, let those things that you are passionate about become your life, let them become the reason you get out of bed in the morning.

You need to set goals for yourself that don't involve women, and strive to achieve those goals.

Make a list of 200 things you want to do before you die, and start doing those things.

Women want a man who has a life other than her. A man who has goals, ambitions, and passions is very attractive to a woman.

If you don't have any deep purpose in life other than surviving and banging chicks, then for you own sake, I strongly suggest you find one. Especially if you intend you bank a lot of chicks, because they don't want a man who has no purpose.

Ok, thank you again sidnne6, I'll try to do my best

lol, today she saw my facebook (I don't have her as a friend, but my facebook is open to public) and she saw me with a lot of girls (pics I added to generate social proof), and she sent me a text message saying:
"Can I see you today"?
I didn't aswer, and 8 minutes later she sends me another message saying:
"sorry I'm mixing all, nevermind"
and of course I didn't answer to that...
lol, that's weird... she's acting stupid

When a girl breaks up you, she gives you the leverage. By acting AFC and begging her to come back, you give that leverage back to her, leaving you with nothing. By doing what you're doing now, you take the leverage back. She is feeling the fear of loss, feeling regret and guilt, and she doesn't know how to handle that. She is starting to act out of desperation. Just keep doing what you're doing.

Remember though, you aren't trying to win her back. She wants to come back, but she has to re-earn your trust and convince YOU that she is worth taking back.

got ya'

well, today she called me, and said that she wanna see me (again)... I said I can't, maybe tomorrow...

so, I'll keep you updated... if she wanna get back, obviously I will not say yes at first... I'll do what you said, she must re-earn my trust...

Meantime, I'll do my life.

thank you for your advice, it really helps me

Just make sure that you don't have any expectations if you meet with her. Don't go into it thinking that she's going to ask you to get back together. Look at it like you're just meeting up with her and you'll see where it goes.

No matter what happens, be in control of your emotions.

If she wants to get back together, don't show excitement.
If she screams at you, calls you names, tells you she hopes you die, or anything negative...Stay calm, and tell her that you didn't agree to meet with her so she could cause drama, and if she can't act like an adult, then you're leaving.

She is chasing you, you're not chasing her. You have the power and leverage now, so do not give it back to her. Be in control.

edit: Also, it is very important that you do not talk about the relationship. If she brings it up, then you can talk about it. But, you don't want to be the one who brings it up first.

Let her lead the conversation. She is the one who wants to meet with you, so she must have something she wants to talk about. Let her spill it all. But, if it seems like it's just a lot of small talk, or any negativity, and the meeting isn't going anywhere, then you must tell her you have things to do and have to leave. Do not sit there for hours just to be around her if you're not getting anywhere.

sidnne6 you are really good. very good advices you gave. I think, that it's very important to stop contacting her and becoming passive. If she wants a relationship with you again, she has to work for it, because she ruined it. So keep doing what sidnne6 said, don't give her the power, because you are the man. If you want to learn how to improve your inner-game and more about dating and winning her back, then visit http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/.