So I've been going out with this girl 10 months now, Everything has been great never argue constant sex etc... Then this past 2 weeks we've argued allot I've been getting a little more jealous,worrying if she likes me or not. So I sat her down and had a talk she says she loves me more than ever but she's getting pissed off at arguing,We had been seeing each other every day though. So I suggested lets see how we feel after a few days apart so I went to my friends uni for a few days cleared my head had good few nights out never cheated once may I add. Now things have gone back to normal but deep down I feel she's not that into me I honestly think its my insecurities though. Anyway she keeps asking did I cheat on her, hit on any girls or dance with them. Honestly I was a saint I just went out with my friends and enjoyed their company. But because she got cheated on in the past she doesn't trust anyway and honestly it's really affecting our relationship any advice would be awesome.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

Clearly this girl (and maybe you aswell) aren't ready for a serious relationship.

If there's no trust, the relationship will eventually break down.


Don't waste your time.

I do trust her though, just because I'm a little jealous ( as is 99% of men ) I've never had doubts about her cheating on me once.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

She doesn't trust you.

It should be mutual, obviously.

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I know she doesn't trust me, that's why I made this post! So I could get some help to prove to her that I am faithful and everything will be fine.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

wrong. Wrong. Wrong
bad advice. Bad advice. Bad advice
don't think abt her not loving you or not trusting u, its just in ur head.
Her asking,"did u cheat me " is a gud thing. Honestly, i have been and still am in a relation, its gud that she cares abt u being loyal to her.
Reply her whatever she asks in a cool relaxed way. And again, dnt think abt her nt loving you or nt trusting u. Its just in ur head. Trust me!
Get out of it and things are going to get gud. She loves you, i am sure she does. Love her back
i hope that helps

Depends what you like.

If you are comfortable with a woman who asks you "did you cheated on me?" when you come home, fine for you.


But personally it's not what i look for in a woman...

Good luck bro.

you are framing it the wrong way. Girls have emotions swings and sometimes they need to know that they love them, that you are only theirs. And its a natural thing.

The first thing you need to do, is address your own insecurities. Stop feeling jealous, stop wondering if she still likes you, stop arguing. These are the things you need to handle first, otherwise it's not going to matter if she trusts you or not, because she's not going to be attracted to you anymore.

Focus on being an alpha.

Second, play the song "Previous Cats" by Music Soulchild.

Wrong.

Of course they want input, and they want sometimes to feel/hear you love/like them.

But that is NOT equal to saying bullshit like "did you cheated on me".

Btw: read the first post by topic starter. "Keeps asking me did you cheated on me".

This is a structural problem: she doesn't trust him.

Two different things.

you are putting the bad theory here. Lets fuck the theory
its been a year that i am with my gf and she atleast asks me once or twice a week the same question. I answer every time without getting irritated, and after that its always top level emotional romance, she gives me 100% of her flngs and we have a happy relation.
Now on m gna say every thing with real life examples so if u say anythng dnt forget to mention first handed experience

I've been with girls who don't trust me and it's not particularly something i like.

Ive been with girls who ask me all those crap, and i don't like it.

for me its an issue

I have a question...so prior to this recent fight...how were things?

The same level of trust between the two of you?

Did you question each-others actions?

Did you feel that there was more interest in you on her behalf before?

Im thinking that alot of this could in fact be "in your head" so to say. If you keep thinking that something is wrong, then you will in fact create or find something to be wrong...what I am getting at is...if you did not have this mindset before this fight, then obviously, it wasn't an issue before.

To get back to how things were...just remember how things were then and don't let the little things bother you.

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

Makes perfect sense really, I'm going to be honest I do think it's all in my head because she is questioning me so much so it makes me angry. When I am angry I tend to blow things well out of proportion and just make things seem worse then they are. The trouble is overcoming it I'm starting to act like an AFC again.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

having this mindset can help you
"i am not going to care about this. If she stays with me, she stays, if not then not. Whatever happens, happens"
be ready to lose her, "she would leave me? Ok leave me"
being ready to lose her would kick the ass of your inner afc. Just don't care.
Remember "who cares the most, has the least control in the relation"
stop thinking about it 2 much. Just have in mind,"if she leaves me, she leaves me, thats it" being ready to lose her would stop your inner neediness and then you can behave as normal. Everything would be ok

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