irst of all i want to thank you all guys for the help you are giving !

My problem is as follows:
Last winter i met this girl at a party. She really liked me, and i liked her. But she was just passing by and we just talked that night and she left to her hometown in NY.

Later we got each others phone no. and e-mails and we have been speaking for almost 1 year.
And when i say that we did it in such a great way, that in the last period of time we were even really talking sexual on the phone. We have been speaking like 1-2 times per day, and texting.
She even admitted she had strong feelings for me, and later on i admitted that to her as well. And i know I shouldn't have.
We planned on meeting, since it's a great distance between us, but each time something happened during this year and we couldn't meet, sometimes it was because of my studies, or her studies and exams.

We were really planning on meeting this winter and we were all going great BUT i don't know exactly how it happened, i texted her in a joking way that tonight when she goes out to not go on a date with some guy ... and after i insisted with another stupid joke like this asking her: " Why didn't you reply? where your hands occupied with someone others' hands?"
And i think this pissed her off. Later that day she found a pic of me on facebook with another girl. I was just tagged there and it was pure accident. But it was a HARMLESS pic. Still, she thought i did it because she didn't answer and that i wanted to take revenge or something like this, which is silly.

The next day we could hardly talk, she was not "available" etc.
I couldn't see that maybe she lost somewhat interest in me all of a sudden, because each time we were to talk on the phone, she was finding excuses to hang up.
I did the BIG MISTAKe to text her that i care for her and that i think of her all the time.

Later on, we spoke again on the phone and we got into a kind of a fight, and after asking her a couple of times to tell me the truth, she said that she doesn't know how she feels know and that we should take a break from speaking.
I was like shocked in the beginning and i started to appear needy and clingy to her when she mentioned to not speak. A big mistake i know.
We haven't spoken since then, and even though only 3 days passed, it feels like 3 years for me.
This "i need sometime because i am not independent anymore" might be just BS.

I know my mistakes, but what is it that i should do to win her back? And meet eventually?

Any advice upon what i should do to make her realize that i am what she is looking for and that i am the great person she once thought i was and basically to STIR the interest in her again?

Thanks in advance and cheers !

Give her what she wants. Stop talking to her. She will eventually contact you again.

But, as long as you keep contacting her and telling her that you keep thinking about her and shit like that, you are destroying your manhood and pushing her away.

I can't imagine going through all of this over a girl you haven't even met though. You need to go meet some girls who live closer to you.

Thanks for the reply.
I didn't talk with her at all.
She stopped facebook activity since our problem here, i did also.
Meaning she has no activities going on.
This could mean 2 possible things:
She either is with another guy 24/7 lol !
Or she is doing it on purpose, and this might not be such a bad thing, meaning that she is really thinking about this also, and didn't just forget about me.

WHEN and IF she will contact me again, how should i talk? Should i be more ALPHA, etc? or be sweet with her?

Thanks again !

She didn't forget about you. Get that insecure thought out of your head. They NEVER forget about you.

And don't think about what other things she might be doing. You don't know what she might be doing, and you're only going to speculate negative things. She could be sitting there on the couch by herself watching Oprah and crying. But, if you are thinking about it, you're going to assume she is out living it up and running around with someone else. Don't do that to yourself.

And maybe she is running around with someone else, but that is something you are going to have to accept, because there is nothing you can do about it. Control what you can control. And the only thing you can control is yourself.

She will contact you again. They always do at some point. It might be weeks, or months, or years though, so you can't sit around and wait for it to happen. You have to worry about yourself and work on you.

Read the thread "Easiest Way To Save A Dying Relationship." I have posted a lot of information about this in that thread.

thanks for your great insight. Many thanks !

Still saying that it could take even months or years until she contacts me again is just a thing that depresses me even more.

But do you think that if she will eventually contact me back, we will start talking like we used to?
Or it will basically be like a platonic conversation?

For your sake, it needs to be platonic. You have to be polite and upbeat, but not excited. Act like it's just an old friend who is calling you, and that her calling you is no big deal and has no effect on you.

so we will talk platonic again like in the first time we started talking.

How soon do you think i should initiate sexual content into it?
Should i even mention whether she is going to come see me, if at all ?

Thanks again !