hey guys

all was goin well with this girl i was seeing. we went on a few dates, we've kissed and she was all over me. after the last time we saw each other i didn't call her for a few days then when i call her, she didnt answer her fone or messages. fast foward a week i get a message saying she has got back with her ex and feels it isnt appropriate that we should speak. i havent replied to her message as yet. i really like this girl. any help would be great.

You let her get cold man. She was all over you, then you ignore her. Her buying temp for you dropped. You probably don't have much of a chance with her now. My only suggestion would be to try to build the attraction back between you two, the way you did it before. If that doesn't work, move on. Well, you need to move on anyway, along with trying again for her.

Thanks L.A. Tripp. I guess I didn't want to come across as being creepy by calling her 10 times a day. When and how often do you feel is appropriate to keep in contact with a girl to, i guess, keep me on their radar and to maintain attraction?

Others feel free to comment.

You dont contact her. You work on your game. One day maybe a month or two down the road you just happen to come across her number & you call.
She'll do the typical "What have you been up to?" question.

Be vague, but hint that youve been busy, and busy w/ friends, family and girls. DHV. But keep in mind not to sound like your bragging or trying hard.

Inquire what shes been up to, if she hasnt already told you. If she mentions how shes not w/ the bf anymore or theyre fighting. Bait her for a meeting.

you
"Whatre you doing this Fri?"

girl
"nothing."

you
"Oh wait...Ive got plans. What about Sat morning or in the eary afternoon?"

girl
"Nothing."

you
"OK Im free then. Lets have brunch. We can play catch up."

Hope you get the idea.
You're a busy guy w/ lots of people to interact w/. You're just being kind enough to ALLOW her into YOUR life. YOUR reality.


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Like Justin said, at THIS point, with THIS girl, that's your next step.

In general though, it won't hurt to make a QUICK call a day or two later. I wouldn't wait more than two. Just ONE call though. Or, you could shoot a text to her a day later. Just a quick one. Something funny. Something to remind her of the time you had when you were together. Then, if she keeps it going, you can send a few more. But, don't just give her the rest of your day either. After a few tell her you have to go. Let her know that you are busy.