so there is this girl that i have been working on, but now i am stuck. last weekend, she gave me a lot of ioi's, and i returned them. what i didn't do, was close. The chance never presented itself. I would get close to it, but somethin would always happen to stop it. I already have her number, but i can't get beyond that. I saw her tonight, and she seriously jumped over a chair and ran to me. That was a lil different, but i played it cool. i didnt show that it phased me. we talked for a while, then i met up with my friends. Her and i met up like 2 hours later, at our friends birthday party. Here is where i am lost. the entire time, it was like she was avoiding me. like we would pass each other, but there was zero interest shown. we later talked off and on for the better part of an hour. we joked around, lots of kino, but not many ioi's. she got th puppy dog look when i told her that i might not be back next semester, but idk. then some other guy was gaming her, and he did a good job; but it didn't see, like it would go farther than tonight. I don't know what to do to try and salvage this, or am i just getting ahead of myself? what would you guys suggest? i don't think ill be seeing her for at least the next 3 weeks. i am going out of town on friday, and she is going back home on saturday. should i text her tomm? if so, what should i say? should i be flirty, or just lay it out? the worst part about this, is that i am getting oneitis with her, and it just started developing over the last two days. I know that i gotta figure this out at least a little bit before i leave, or else its gonna be on my mind the entire trip. sorry for the long post, but i thank you for your advice.

I feel you. Oneitis sucks bad, what you hadn't mentioned was if there was any kino escalation. I'm guessing not, so I think you could be heading straight to the LJBF. You should go out your 3weeks ignore this chick, and regame her when you come back. Speak with as much females as you can while you are away. Get rid of the oneitis. By doing this it seems like you don't even have her on your mind. If you were to text her, than she has already won. Look at the amount of times you spoke with her and you hadn't got past anything. That b'day party should of been the kiss'close. There wer a lot of opportunities, the backyard, the front steps, side of the house, even basement if it was quiet. Well don't dwell on missed opportunities, seems like you are already doing good.

thanks man, thats some good advice. there was some kino escalation, but i could have taken it farther. well, the trip should be fun. My friend already has some girls waiting on me to get out there, so lets see how that goes. Do you think i should just drop her when i get back, or should i pick up where we left off, and then just kiss close?

Hi man; That story seems a little familiar to me...

Here is the story: (long story made short)

SO I met this girl and started playing with her , I got her fun , got a lot of IOI but couldn't close, I went out like 3 more times and just couldn't close, later on I found out he was dating this other guy (like 2 months before) She finished being his GF, but She called me, she told me she don't care about this guy , etc..., so I started feeling things for her (A lilttle bit of One-itis) so I started like loosing her up, so I tried to play hard to get (Yeah I know, is fucking hard, but you have to do it , I think you are in this situation) , but I couldn't the girl was 24/7 in my head, I met her in a Party and she was nice at the beginning but then she started talking to 20 other guys just to make me jealous(actually she did pretty well , I was fucked up that night, but didn't showed interest on her, either, all through I was burning in the inside. I guess that was an important thing.) Finally I could and I Avoided talking with her for a few days and she start playing nice with me , she told me she dumped his bf, and she wanted to meet again. She Told me she was going to call to night, lets see what happen.


Okay anyway , I think you are kind in the same situation . (I don't think your going to the LJBF) But I think that because you like the girl the best thing you can do, Is play hard to get, until you see she is giving you nice IOI (Don't be a jerk , just don't call her and you will see she will send you a message at least.) Yeah It will be hard but Is the only way to win her back , think like this:

If she want me she will contact me , if she doesn't , she lost her chance.

I hope this helps you. IF you have any question just send me a PM.

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Thanks for your advice, it deff will help. Like the both of you siad, i will leave it alone for now. when i get back, ill start it up all over again. I have been doing a pretty good job of playing hard to get, but sometimes, it is so hard. like last weekend, we were talking; and i went to tease her, because of some comment she had made. out of the blue, she hits me with, you know you love me. i played it off, and i was like don't get ahead of yourself. what would make you think that? thats the best thing i could think to say, i hope it was a good response. i know that it seemed to make her want me a lil more. I noticed that when she sees me off doing my own thing, and she is in the area; she feels a need to get close and talk, or she will just do something to get me to look at her. but man, her timing is so good. i was in a room talking to some people and i just happend to look up, just as she entered the space. and she looks at me, and does a quick little dance and stares me down. but yeah. ill deff be private messaging you when i get back.

ROFL - That phrase... You know you love me ... She allways says that shit when I tease her and make fun of her.

I allways say : NO, I don't love you , You knwo you are the one who can't live without me.

And once again , I know is fucking hard man to avoid talkign to her , but is the only way man.

You got to be strong and once again , think like this:

If she want me she will contact me , if she doesn't , she lost her chance.

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Well, i came back early. it was still a good trip. So, i think i am gettin over this whole thing. At first, she was on my mind during the trip, but that went away. i met some good girls on the trip, and that deff helped. Since i have been back home, she has been on my mind off and on. the crazy thing is, that i don't find her that atractive anymore. i looked at a picture of her a couple of days ago. and all i could say was "what the hell, how is it that i wound up liking her?" so, it looks like i am coming out of oneitis. i think its because of the time that i have spent away from her. Is this a normal thing? In terms of looks, she isn't the kind of girl i would normally go for, but her personality more then makes up for it. She is pretty much an average girl in terms of looks. I haven't heard from her yet, so that is no bueno. so yeah..... i hope everyone had a great xmas. lol

Merry Xmas, and holidays bro. So hmmm why do you have a picture of her ? if you don't mind me asking. I think of pictures like Celebrities, when 50 Cent first came out all the girls in my school were dissing him saying this dude looks like a Gorilla he's ugly this, and that. But once 50 Cent was all over television, and got so much media attention he became a sex symbol to these idiot females. I'm just saying the more you see someone the more you get reminded of them, and want them.

I was on a friends facebook page, and her picture was on there. That is very true. So i guess that means i am gonna be like those idiot females, when she comes back. lol

That also happend to me , when she was away , I was like , she isn't that pretty , I don't like her anymore, I don't have one-itis , but when I went out again with her ( I went out with her again , to try to make out with her , nothing more.) I liked her even more and one-itis was back.

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Oneitis is damning. I've had it more times than I can count, and every time it ended so badly I can't even put up the results here. They were all in my AFC days, thank the gods...

The closest thing I've had to oneitis since starting pick-up has been Mocha. I'm quite desperately in love with her. ^_^ Girlfriends rock.

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Yeah, it sucks. Now, i have another question. I was at a party, and i was gaming these girls last night. i walked away with 3 of the girls numbers. Here is my problem. Two of the girls are cousins. How do i play this situation? I like the taller of the two, but i don't know how to approach this. They both gave me a lot of ioi's and yes there was some kino escelation. You guys have any suggestions? should i just zero in on the taller of the two? This actually bring another question to mind. How do you work a group of targets, when all of them turn out to be friends. There is a group of girls, that i met one by one at different parties. As it turns out, they are all sorority sisters. They share a lot of information so it seems like if i was to go for one; i would close myself off from the others.

This is something i have never come across. I was talking with this girl, and she was saying how i am super nice; and to quote her "you can't fuck with super nice guys." This sparked my curiosity, so i asked her what makes me super nice. According to her, i am super nice; because i am cordial and i don't seem like a guy that would take advantage of her. So, it seems like because i don't give off a rapist vibe, i get no play from her? Has anyone else ever come across this kind of thing? Actually, i think thats a load of bs. lol