Ok, I've recently been arm tied into an exclusive relationship with my girlfriend. We've been this way for about a month or so. She basically gave me the ultimatum, that she'd leave me if I continued to see other women, and I caved.

Since then, I've bought some really good instruction manuals on the internet on how to fuck. I haven't even read 20% of this stuff and already, she's telling me I'm the best fuck she's ever had in her life. I'm finally to the point that she's having several orgasms every time we fuck.

According to the instruction manuals, if you're a really good lay, your woman will never leave you. She fears that she'll never be able to find another man who will be able to fuck her the way you can, which is probably true.

So, do you guys think I can go back to an open relationship now that she's telling me I'm the best lay she's ever had??? Any advice appreciated.

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Since you've already caved it would be almost impossible to "put your foot down" now. There's a chance, obviously, but not likely. It depends on the girl too. If she was that adamant about it, it's also not likely. And, in my marriage, we do bring others in to join us, as in swinging, so I do have some knowledge in this area, lol.

And yes, being the best fuck she's ever had WILL go a long way to keeping her around as long as you keep her satisfied in that area. But, do remember that if that's the ONLY area you keep her satisfied in, sure she will MISS the awesome sex with you, but there is a chance she will get tired of putting up with all the other shit she would have to put up with. NOT saying you're a jerk, please don't misunderstand me. Just talking in general about how to treat girls. If you are good to her in other areas, even if you're not perfect, you're not required to be, but in general good, and GREAT in the sack, then yeah, she's pretty much yours for life.

Tripp said it all pretty much. The question is, "how important is she to you?" If she's just some other girl and you're not being satisfied by her alone, then either you're going to have to see other girls as well, or ditch the relationship. Sure, she may be happy with the current arrangement, but if you're not, then its going to turn sour. So, you let her know, you really like her, maybe even love, but you're just not ready to settle down yet and you're not going to know if she's "the one" to settle down with, unless you are allowed to see other people as well. Doesn't mean you're leaving her, or you like her any less, you just need to be able to experience life to know what is right for you.

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Please send links to some of those books, maybe the 20% you read. Thanks.

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Read anything by David Shade. That guy knows his shit about how women think and knowing how they think and what they want is how you give them great sex.

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hey dude, if this girl is right for you then take a break from PUA..
If you know it won't last with her than break it off..

There's nothing wrong with settling down for a short or even indefinite time and there's nothing wrong with playing the field and having fun.

But as for getting better in bed. Many guys have insecurities and especially if they aren't very experienced they're worried their woman/women won't stay with them because they aren't good in bed but as you said, she's already told you she's the best.

You should take what she said to heart and you won't worry anymore about how bad in bed you might be. women like confidence and not insecurities but know that guys have an inferiority complex about being bad in bed.

Every guy has had it at some point or another. Every single woman I've slept with has told me the same thing but I wasn't confident until probably after the 2nd one.

She's said your the best so you have nothing to worry about and you can get rid of all those books. If you want to get better in bed then do it together and explore kama sutra with her.

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You don't have to stop working on your game either. Relationships aren't winning, you still have to keep it going. If you stop working on being a better man and turn AFC, then you lose.

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