| Pragmatically speaking, it was probably a mistake to respond that you love her as well. It is okay to feel that way, but you don't say it to a person who broke up with you recently. You wait for them to make the move.
It appears as though this is a classic case of:
- girl doesn't want to date anymore
- she then realizes how lonely she is
- she needs ego reinforcement/a sense that someone wants her
- she texts her ex until he caves in and gives her what she needs
- attention=granted, she backs off again
You want her back, right? You want practical advice? Do NOT contact this girl until she starts calling you. MAYBE an occasional and short response to a text message (but do not respond to emotional texts). Then, if you still want to have her when she starts calling, answer the phone, be brief but polite, and be the first to hang up. "Oh, hey, I have to go. It was good talking to you." You can do this 3 or maybe 4 times (don't answer every time she calls, though. You can text back the next day: "Hey, I saw your call from last night. What's up?") If she initiates a meet-up, tell her you can't make that. Then propose an alternative. Ideally, the alternative is something you were going to do anyway ("You know, I'm going to get some coffee at this joint that just opened. We could meet there.") Then meet at the appropriate time and place, have a back-up excuse (I gotta go wash my hair) and be the first to leave. If you like the vibe of that "date," make another one.
That is about as practical as I can get. But you need to ask yourself: why bother with a girl who doesn't want you and strings you along emotionally when you can be out practicing your game?
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