Start of my FR-Diary

Stardate Sep. 16th 2011, Captain Madrox and his 2 Co-Pilots going to the first bar. The selection ist not big, but some planets waiting for discovery, but it is as always: starting problems. The turbines need to long to warm up. After half an hour, first contact, a casual talk about ping pong (which was played next to us).

A lot of interesting girls standing and moving around me, but my main processor won't function correctly and doesn't generate output, so it took another 20 minutes till the next take-off attempt. Copilot 2 is talking to a set, Copilot 1 and I standing next to them, but doing our own thing and then I think „Now you have to start!“ and so I use a new improvised opener („Is it possible to stop yourself from thinking?“) on a 3Set. Here I should have hit the jackpot, because one of the Hbs has a badge in Buddhism and meditates every day. We talk a little bit about it and in the corner of my eye I see her 2 friends with unfriendly faces, here I missed to include them in the conversation. After a short chit-chat, I thanked her and ejected. Shortly after, we hit bar 2.

This time it didn't took long, Copilot 1 and I opened a 3Set together, using his (and his targets) scarf as topic. I took care of the other 2, but one of them wasn't interested at all in a conversation, but her friend was. She came to me and talked to me (HB6). IOIs from the start and we talked normal conversation. Then she asked what I do for a living and I used my Hitman-Routine and she said I should call upon her, if I need a lawyer and it turned out she studies law. With that we got to tv-shows we like and I gave her 2 High-Fives for her good taste. I try to make it more interesting with the Question-Game. After 2 questions she said: “Is it ok, if I go outside to smoke?”. “Of course” I said, “See you later” and got back to my Copilot 2, standing at the bar, she didn't come back.

Copilot 2 goes looking for No. 1. While I was dinking my water, a 2Set stands next to me, a UG and a HB 6.5. The Backstreet Boys were playing and I said: “The Backstreet Boys are still cool” and both of them nodded their head with a grin. We got to talk about TrashPop-Partys (which are IN right now, where I am from) and they said, they would love to go to one, but never have been. I told them, where the good ones are, and INSTANTLY saif “We should go together”. I don't know why I said it this early. Anyways, we kept talking and this time I tried to talk to both of them until my Wing comes back, but UG needs to go to the toilet and I get some alone time. Typical Chit-Chat and after a while she asked me, what I do for a living, I again used my Hitman-Routine, but she didn't seem to like it and she asked again and I said “I can't tell you that, because you're going to stalk me and my boss doesn't like that. She laughed and I told her where I really work. She knew the place and said “Next to the supermarket?” , “Yes!”, “I always go shopping there, so I can stalk you!”

Then she wanted to know where I live.
Me: “Isn't it enough, to stalk me at work?”
HB: “If I stalk, I do it right!”

I told her the area where I live and it turned out, she lives near by. We talked a bit more and I tried the Question-Game again. One Rule “No boring questions!” She broke the rule, because she did want to know my name and I teased her a bit for breaking the rules. But she didn't seem to like, that I avoid giving a straight answer and being funny instead. We shook hands and hers was very slack so I said “What kind of handshake is that?” and she said: “This is the most you get for now.”
I didn't know what to say, so I let it be.

At this point I recognized, that my body language sucks, I was leaning in to her all the time (which I usually NEVER do). But it had something to do with me being ill and my voice was going away and I couldn't talk loud anymore.

In the meantime my wing showed up and talked to UG, who showed up too. But he didn't took care of her for long, and so my target wanted to go back to her friend, because I took more than 5 seconds to think of another question for the question-Game.

I went to my Copilots and they wanted to move on. For me it was surely the last set, because I couldn't talk anymore and so I went back to her, telling her it was nice meeting her and she should give me her number. She didn't want to, but told me to give her my facebook-details, so she could take a look at my profile before. I said in a humorous manner: “Do I understand that right, you're going to stalk me at work and at home and I don't even get your number?” , “Yes!”.

I gave her my facebook, but didn't thought she would write me. (But she did yesterday)

After that, I went home.

My old problem with new sets was present again: Too much normal Small-Talk, not enough cocky-Funny and I don't build attraction.

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Remember, women are not linear, logical creatures. If
you do things that make sense, they will do things that
don’t make any sense at all. (David DeAngelo)

Friday.
I'm out with my wings Chewbacca and C-3PO. Today I promised myself not to wait long to make my first approach. We went to a supermarket where I got some cookies. We went to a venue, which is always full of people. It took 5-10 min. until I started offering my cookies to people stand/sitting around us. Some of them took some cookies, and a HB (7,5) from a 2-Set started a conversation with me about cookies. I ejected after a few minutes and reopened them 10 min. later.
It went good and Chewie came to help me, while C-3PO was away doing his thing. Everything went fine, until C-3PO came to us and now it was 3 guys and 2 girls. He didn't get my hint to go away and he screwed up my set, even if not on purpose.

Tried the cookie thing a few times, only works when you are standing somewhere and are not on the move. Went to bar, left without approaching. Next Bar, again no approaches, but I talked to a sweet female Bouncer and seduced her to eat my cookies, which is not a metaphor for my nuts. We went to next bar, C-3PO opened a 2-Set, Chewie went in to help and winked me over later and introduced me. Chewie does not speak German that good so the girl asked me if I speak German, and I made it look like I don't. After some sentences I told her that I speak German, which earned me a laugh and a punch on the shoulder. We started talking more, because Chewie hat no interest and went to approach another girl. C-3PO was gaming the other girl but then started to game the girl I was talking to. He did a better job, did lots of kino. When Chewie came back we left without C-3PO.

Conclusion: Opened the first Set very fast, but then alsmost nothing after that. My problem are not the approchwas, but the thougt of knowing that I can't get a good conversation going, at least not one where I build attraction.

Saturday, 8 pm, I had a date with the hb I met 2 weeks before. She was punctual and we went for cocktails. We had good conversation, but I failed with kino … I just can't get it done … She knew I only had time until 10 pm because I was goung to a Trash-Pop-Party, but she asked me again, when I had to leave. I asked her to join me, which she did and even cancelled on her girlfriends. “Huge IOI”, I thought. Chewie met us at 10 and we drove to the club together,

Inside it was great, I took her by the hand and dragged her to the dance floor, my first little bit of kino. I just took her hand slightly, so she could have let go easyli, which she didn't. We danced a lot, not much talking (was to loud anyways). Then I wanted to take her to the seats, but before I could, she said “ I need to sit, it's too hot”. Great, not it looked like I was following her, but I needed a break myself. But it was still too hot, so I took her by the hand again and led her outside. Talked a bit, no kino, back inside to dance. Then she said she is tired and will take the train at half past 1. Since I didn't want to stay later than 2 myself I told her, we leave together and I will drive her home (she lives not far from me). First she said ok, but after looking up the train departures for Chewie (which was at 2:15), she said I should stay and she will take the train. I said ok to not look needy. Then a slow song was played and I thought “Now or never” and I tried to pull her to me to dance closely, she blocked “It's too hot”. Which was true but I took it as an IOD. Shortly after she left and we said goodbye.

Outside I told Chewie how it went and 2 Hbs came to us, they were opened by Chewie before. He introduced me and the girls asked if we're coming with them to dance. We said we need to chill and talk for a few minutes and will them meet inside, which we did and we danced with them. Chewie left the set to me, because he was not interested. But we sat down a few minutes later and couldn't stay much longer, because his train was leaving soon. We said goodbye and one of the Hbs made a sad face. At this point I only exchanged like 3 sentences with her. I told here, we have to catch the train and she said “There will be another in an hour”. But I said: “I have to get up at 8. But we should meet some time, give me your number!” - “OK”. Number close! Nice …

On my way home my date wrote me, that she arrived save at home and she thought the party was super and wished me a good night. I wrote the other girl a text, so she would have my number, since I was planning on calling her the next day instead of texting.

Today I called my date from the night before. She didn't pick up, nor call or write back.
Called the other girl, same thing …

My date from the night before is very hot (even more then I remembered from approaching) and very nice, but seems to be very shy. I am gonna write her tomorrow and try for a second date.

Conclusion: I need to escalate! And I need to build more attraction after the approach. I just don't know how yet.

_________________
Remember, women are not linear, logical creatures. If
you do things that make sense, they will do things that
don’t make any sense at all. (David DeAngelo)

Saturday:
Today I was accompanied only by C-3PO. I miss Chewie …

We went to a Club we haven't been before. Outside was a queue, I started talking to the 2 girls in front of us immediately. They were hot, but as it turned out, they were only 16. Ouch …
Well, at least I approached my first set within one minute. When we realized, most people there are between 16 – 20, we left before entering, since we are 28 and 29.

Went to a bar and we met C-3POs Ex'. His mood was down immediately. Didn't stay long there, no approaches, I just talked lightly with one of the hired guns.

At the next bar we approached some sets independently and, without realizing it, opened the same sets. My first set was shit, it was like I took an AFC-Drug and I said all the wrong thins. I don't know why and I got kicked out pretty fast, but friendly.

Next set. The girl actually opened me, because she thought I was talking to her, but I was talking to C-3PO, who was standing behind her. I said to him “I am usually the -tight is good- kind of guy, but this is too much” (because it was overcrowded in the bar. Of course it had a double meaning and the girl caught that and she also said she “tight is good”. I ran out things to say again and ejected. I opened her a little bit later, because I noticed she looks a little bit like Emma Watson and I told her that. We started talking about movies and how she likes independent movies and I am totally mainstream. I said “We would never get along” to disqualify. Talked about for 2 more minutes or so and I actually thought “No, we would never get along”, so I ejected.

Opened a 2-Set, talked about the hat one HB was wearing, telling her “I always wanted my girlfriend to wear hats, but she never wanted to”. Talked for a minute or two and again I ran out of things to say. I stood in my own way by focusing on my problem, that I don't build attraction.

Next bar: I opened a 14!-Set. They were all standing in a circle on the dancefloor, but not dancing. I went up to one HB and said: “Is this the circle for the cool people”? - “Yes!” - “Then you have to let me in.” They opened up immediately, but instead of standing next to them in the circle I went inside the circle and just started dancing. Got lots of positive feedback from the girls, one joined me and we danced together. I head one of the girls saying something about me (don't remember what, but something like “who is he”) and I said “I'm the birthday stripper for your girlfriend”. They were all together to celebrate a birthday. She laughed and said something teasing and I couldn't come up with a good response and just could say “Ouch” and then said “Well, you got me, high five!”. One of the other girls than came to me and touched my hair and I said “you have to pay to touch me”. She asks “how much?”. I didn't expect that questions and stupidly said “1 Euro for every touch”.

Later I saw her outside with a friend, when I got some fresh air, and talked to them again. Didn't went good I just couldn't get a good conversation going. I usually can have a conversation, I just miss building attraction, but today not even that was possible.

Then I tried to help my wing who had approached a 2-Set and the obstacle looked bored to death. She had no interest in talking at all … Ejected quicky.

After that I approached a last set, ejected quickly. After that I called it a night and went home.

Conclusion: I made my game worse by thinking too mich about how to build attraction. I need a differend approach. Since I am not able to go out next weekend I will use that time to think about my inner game and how I will go on in the future.

_________________
Remember, women are not linear, logical creatures. If
you do things that make sense, they will do things that
don’t make any sense at all. (David DeAngelo)